I need help. So my ex and I broke up two months ago but I’m realizing I still love her. She’s on my mind 24/7 and honestly I’d do anything for her. When we broke up she said we shouldn’t cut contact so we still text Snapchat and follow each other on Insta and TikTok.
We met up yesterday and agreed to just keep it casual and have fun but now I’m wondering does she still feel something for me? I feel like she loves me but is keeping her distance and I can’t figure out why. Maybe she’s scared of getting caught up again? I’d do anything to make her feel free and not trapped but it hurts because I feel like she’s not being real with me.
if she’s over it why sleep with me? Why do we vibe so well when we’re together? I’ve got questions
Does she still have feelings for me?
Is there a way I can get her back? I swear we love each other but she’s not admitting it.
Is she scared it’ll end up the same way? And how can I show her it won’t?
Can hooking up change things like bringing out feelings we’re both hiding?
How do I make her feel free and not like she’s stuck?
She also said she’s not planning to see anyone else so idk what to think. This whole situation is messing me up.
Last updated on:2025-01-08T18:02:26+05:30
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Ugh yeah it’s complicated . Ask yourself how much can you handle if it turns into a mess? If you’re strong enough just be straight up with her. Tell her you still like her care about her and wanna hang out. Let her know you get it’s messy for her and you just wanna vibe together without expecting anything. Say you’ll be there for her no pressure.
But keep it real you’re kinda letting her have her cake and eat it too. You’re prob gonna get hurt so brace yourself.
What do you want tho? Give yourself a timeline like 3-6 months. Set boundaries for yourself (since you can’t really set them with her). Got any hard no’s? could you handle her seeing someone else?
If you go for this, be super careful. Go in fully aware of what you’re signing up for.
I can’t deal with this anymore. I’m done with all this. She doesn’t get how much I love her or how much I’ve been there for her and one day she’s gonna realize what she lost. It hurts so bad but I think this is the only move I got. Every time I think about it it’s like a punch to the chest. And I don’t even know how I’d handle it if she starts seeing someone else. I’ve thought about blocking her everywhere and just starting over. It’s not like I think I can’t find someone else. I just really love her. That’s all.
Hey OP sorry you're dealing with this. For your own peace you gotta keep some distance. This girl’s got her own stuff going on and isn’t being straight with you. You still have feelings and hope you can change hers but you can’t. If she can’t commit she just won’t.
If she says she feels trapped but won’t explain there’s nothing you can do. Breaking up with you but still hooking up? That’s only fine if it’s just about sex for you too but it’s clearly not.
I’d let her explain herself and tell her how you’re feeling and what you want. If she keeps acting the same way I’m sorry but you gotta walk away. No contact. It’ll hurt but you don’t deserve this messy situation either.
Edit - your questions:
No clue. Sex doesn’t always mean deeper feelings.
Not admitting love isn’t a good sign but also you don’t wanna pressure anyone into saying it.
she needs to tell you how she actually feels.
Yeah sex can 100% just be about the physical stuff.
Sorry not enough details on your relationship or why she felt trapped.
Man it hurts so bad knowing she doesn’t want me anymore. But what gets me even more is thinking about all the good times we had and now it’s like she’s a whole different person. I’ve made up my mind tho no more hooking up with her. I’m just gonna block her everywhere and vanish. this pain is too much. I can’t keep doing this. Thanks ❤️