me and my ex started talking again and we’re exactly in the same position we were in last year. Same fights, same gaslighting, same anger, same resentment. Although he says he wants to be friends no effort is shown and when I bring it up suddenly I’m not being patient. I’m really exhausted and we have been doing this for over a year. Any tips on how to have self control? Sometimes I feel this awful anxiety when he doesn’t answer and I just want to know how I can be strong. I’m so exhausted that my body is showin physical signs.
Last updated on:2026-03-07T22:27:22+05:30
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this sounds so draining, a whole year of the same fights would wear anyone down. when he says he wants to be friends, does his behavior ever actually look like friendship or does it still feel like the same old push and pull?
definitely not a friendship at all. It’s a push and pull dynamic unfortunately. Seems like he only talk to me when he’s feeling an emotional void. Once I fill the void he disappears. Honestly I was okay with friendship and all I wanted was communication
oh god. i did the same loop with my ex, same gaslighting, same “let’s just be friends” talk but zero effort. my body started reacting too, headaches, no sleep, constant anxiety. it’s exhausting when your heart keeps going back to the same place.
how are you doing now?
Take him a revenge. Be prettier than ever . Go gym ..visit new places. Make new friends. Don't give him thousand chances to the same person instead try a different one. What if U actually find someone better. Don't waste your energy and time on him . Don't pity him . Don't feel guilty
you’re right. He has drained my body of energy and patience. all I can do now is gracefully let go
You deserve way better Queen. Stop settling for less than you deserve
you’re right. any tips?
I think u should just leave him, he wants access without responsibilities, he is giving you breadcrumbs and u deserve way more than that.
you’re right. it’s been over a year and nothing has changed. I’m gonna block him