my (now ex) girlfriend and I started vibing at work back in July. We didn’t really meet then but that’s when we started talking for real. We had so much fun together just enjoying each other’s company. It eventually turned into a relationship but we kept it lowkey at work except for a few close people.
Thing is we argued a lot mostly about stuff I’d say or do that I didn’t think she’d have a problem with. It was frustrating because I didn’t get her reactions most of the time and instead of explaining she’d just shut down.
That’s where I kinda messed up. Those arguments really started weighing on me. You could tell by looking at me that I wasn’t okay. I loved her so much so when she’d just stop responding and leave me clueless it got super frustrating.
One of our mutual work friends noticed something was off and asked me what was up. I ended up venting to her a lot complaining about how I didn’t understand my ex’s reactions.
Fast forward to now things blew up recently. We got into another argument because we’re both pretty jealous and possessive and we hated seeing each other getting close to anyone else at work. I asked our mutual friend if she’d ever seen my ex hanging out with this guy I saw her laughing with the other day.
Big mistake. My ex found out I asked someone else instead of going to her first. She’s super private and doesn’t like people knowing our business. When I told her she flipped said she couldn’t trust me anymore. Then she called our friend who told her how I’d been venting about her.
That’s when everything fell apart. She called me back and accused me of lying to her the whole time said I didn’t love her that I made her look bad and even called me evil.
I swear that was never my intention. I love her more than I’ve ever loved anyone. She cared about me in ways that made me fall for her so hard. But now she hates me. She says she’ll never forgive me that I betrayed her trust and ruined everything.
I’m wrecked. I really thought she was my person. And now it’s all gone. This year couldn’t have started worse.
Last updated on:2025-01-20T17:56:07+05:30
Comments (3)
Woof tough lesson. The one you’re talking about huge deal. Keep your stuff private if you wanna keep things healthy. Hard to learn but trust it’ll help you later.
Dating coworkers? Risky af.
Love triangles? Straight-up toxic.
That’s three hits right there. Keep your chin up, learn from it, and don’t repeat the same mistakes. You got this.
You're so right that lesson hit hard fr. Thanks for the advice I’ll do better and not mess up again.
@Funkymind Don’t stress it we’re all human, mistakes happen. You’ve got a good mindset and you care that’s like 95% of it 💯. Solid post OP thx for sharing!