m a 20 y/o guy and this morning after 4 months together my first ever girlfriend (21F) said she thinks we should take a break. Bro it crushed me. I could tell she was acting a bit off last night and this morning but I didn’t think it’d lead to this. I’ve been super clear with her about how I feel like yeah this hurt so bad but I wanna respect her needs cause I really care about her.
Things haven’t been amazing lately ngl. We were apart for 3 weeks over winter break and ever since we got back we’ve had a few rough patches mainly one weekend where things felt way off. But when things are good? We’re so happy together. I feel like that time apart kinda messed us up. She’s told me before how much she loves me but apparently some people in my circle make her question stuff. Honestly I get that, and I’ve been working on distancing myself from those people.
I really don’t want this to be the end. She called it a break but one of her texts has me panicking I’m sorry but I don’t think we can this time. Still she also said she just needs some time to clear her head and that I can still reach out.
This is my first time dealing with something like this and idk what to do. I know I’ll end up checking in on her here and there 'cause I’m an emotional dude. When I vibe with someone the way I do with her I can’t stop thinking about them. I’m not the type to date just for fun either I was all in with her, thinking long-term. I still feel that way. I legit can’t picture myself with anyone else. I wanna do whatever it takes to fix what we had but idk how she’s feeling or what’s in her head. How do I even know if we have a shot at getting back together?
My gf wants to take a break and I’m lost. If anyone’s down to help I can give more details in DMs.
Last updated on:2025-01-28T10:03:59+05:30
Comments (5)
Who knows... not trying to ruin the vibe but from what I've seen and heard breaks usually don’t end well
If y’all were apart for 3 weeks that’s basically a break already why another one tho?
thanks for the reply. yeah the first break we were messaging every day sending pics/videos writing little notes and facetiming before bed. this one's way different tho like no contact at all
@SkillLoser She said you could still hit her up. But honestly you can't make people stay. It's her choice if she comes back and your choice if you're down to take her back.
Begging and acting desperate just pushes people away trust me I’ve been there. You’ll figure it out eventually good luck.
@lovewarrior she hit me up at like 3am last night crying saying she just needed to hear my voice. i'm seeing her later today
@SkillLoser this is lowkey getting interesting