I (24F) loved this guy unconditionally since middle school. Gave him everything but it was never enough. I’ve seen the absolute worst of him so bad that a part of me just wanted to disappear so I’d never have to see him again. And yet in some messed up way I still love him. I think about him every day catch myself looking for him in strangers in random scents that remind me of him. My brain keeps replaying moments from 5-10 years ago like some kind of highlight reel. It’s like grieving someone who’s still alive.
Logically I know I’m better off. My life has leveled up in ways I never imagined if I had stayed. But somehow I’m still here stuck wondering how to actually close this chapter.
We’re in full no-contact. I wiped all my socials. We went back and forth for YEARS there’s nothing left to fix. I won’t spill too much because I don’t want anyone connecting the dots but my situation was… different.
I just don’t wanna keep feeling like this. If you’ve been through it how did you move on? Does it actually get better? Any words would mean a lot.
Last updated on:2025-02-04T17:53:43+05:30
Comments (3)
The more space you give yourself from him the easier it gets to move on trust it gets better just focus on healing and leveling up
The real question is yeah it gets better but what does heartbreak even feel like
i’ve never been in a situation like this n i’m def not qualified to give advice but imma try. from what i see it’s like u see this guy as two different ppl the good version n the bad version. u miss the good one but kinda ignore the bad even tho they’re the same person. maybe if u put both together in ur mind ur feelings might start to fade. like every time u think of a good memory remind urself of the bad stuff he did too (as long as it’s realistic). eventually u might accept that he’s just not it overall.
another thing u could try is shifting all the good things u liked abt him onto someone else. maybe a guy u kinda liked or found attractive but never pursued. like if u remember him holding u all sweet picture someone else doing it instead so u stop associating those moments w him.
idk tho ignore me if this sounds dumb i just wanted to say something since no one else has. but fr don’t stress these feelings will go away n life’s too full to be stuck on the same dude forever. u got this!!