I was with my ex for 2 years before she ended it. At first she said she had untreated ADHD (red flag I know) and sometimes that led to some wild, impulsive stuff like buying 2000 random vinyls at an estate sale for $300, buying concert tickets for a show out of state without thinking it through or just randomly picking up big pieces of furniture off the side of the road.
Now months after the breakup I keep wondering if key moments in our relationship were just her ADHD acting up or if that was actually how she felt and honestly I HATE it. Like when she asked me to move in said yes to my proposal even the random breakup. I’m left wondering if any of it was real for her. She broke no contact a couple weeks ago to tell me she’s starting therapy for depression and ADHD.
Last updated on:2025-02-21T12:52:43+05:30
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lol this is wild. i got untreated ADHD and honestly none of that really lines up with my symptoms 😂 idk people love slapping labels on stuff. but at the end of the day we're all just broken ppl (me included) who do weird stuff sometimes and probs need time to work on ourselves
How should I act around someone who says they have ADHD and mild OCD?
Get them into therapy if they’re not already. Try to get the vibe of their ticks/tells and don’t take it personal. ADHD is kinda like manic depression. My ex used to go manic high a lot took me a minute to notice since she didn’t hit those manic lows too often.
@Perrynoamas I get what you're saying she's a solid friend for sure. I'm down to handle the chaos too. We have some wild convos she's definitely a maniac.
I was just hoping to be with her. Not sure I’d recommend therapy tho she’s a bit of a maniac might come for me if I say that lol.
Appreciate your time. Just one last thing you said you were with her for 2 years how’d you cheer her up when she was low? Like how’d you make her laugh? (Sorry if I’m asking too much)
@PeriLuv She didn’t really have those manic lows often, maybe once a year. When it happened I’d give her space for a few days. I’d let her kids know too (they were old enough and on their own). When we were together and she felt down we’d just talk all night and vibe to music.
That’s rough to hear about your situation… I lowkey find myself questioning everything too. Like when she said I was a great person before dragging me, or if her gay bestie who joked about being her jack off partner was actually gay or just messing around…
She’d always say I was her person her soulmate. After we broke up she even called me her twin flame when she wanted to make things right. Then two months later she ended it again during a mental breakdown.
@Perrynoamas I don’t mean to come off harsh or judge but honestly this whole Twin Flame thing doesn’t seem healthy to me. It kinda feels manipulative to say stuff like that. Just look at the impact it has it messes with people’s feelings and makes them dependent in a way that’s not cool especially when someone’s already in a fragile state from like a breakup or trauma. I’m not saying your relationship wasn’t special, but the whole Twin Flame idea is kinda toxic and just feeds into dependency. Wish you nothing but the best tho 🙂