I’m honestly heartbroken and just need to vent. My (23F) boyfriend (25M) of a year broke up with me today. He’s been OTR (over the road) as a truck driver since September and I barely get to see him. When I do it’s like 2 weeks of him being gone. Every time he’s home, I ask if we can go out and spend time together but he’s always tired and kinda grumpy. He says I’m being inconsiderate since he’s been working nonstop with barely any rest. We argued about this so much. I told him I feel like we’re drifting apart and I’m not being appreciated. I also told him how important communication is especially with long distance. He’d reassure me but then go back to being inconsistent and invalidating my feelings.
Valentine’s Day was a mess. Didn’t get anything from him. No flowers no gifts, not even a Happy Valentine’s Day text. I tried to understand since he was OTR but like... nothing? I told him how much Valentine’s Day means to me and I was hurt. We argued about it and then he decided to break up with me for good.
His reason? He said it wouldn’t be fair to me with him being gone all the time. I get the logistics but it feels like he didn’t even wanna try. I loved him and was ready to work through the distance. We talked about our future a lot and now it feels like all that was just thrown away.
It’s hard not to feel like he’s using that as an excuse. Part of me wonders if going OTR was his way out. He didn’t even seem open to discussing how we could make it work.
Anyone been through something like this? I feel so blindsided and don’t know how to move on. Any advice or just knowing I’m not alone would mean a lot.
Last updated on:2025-02-24T14:44:47+05:30
Comments (5)
Leave him and block him to cut all ties! He’s taking you for granted that’s so typical. He’s grumpy just cause you wanna spend time together?
He sounds like a terrible bf. Now u get to find one who’s actually excited to hang with u!!
Seems like that relationship wasn’t it... I know it’s tough but you’ll get through it. Go no contact and just stay off his socials.
I was in the same situation with my ex being in another country never doing long distance again fr
Props to those who make it work it's a lot
No matter what we say here deep down you know what's best for you. Girl my ex worked in logistics too and he recently broke up with me cuz he couldn’t make time. I legit thought I’d die if he left, the pain was so real it almost paralyzed me. But I just took it day by day. If you need help with the pain try watching Mel Robbins and Lumma on breakups. Trust it’ll click. IMMEDIATELY go no contact.