I was seeing this guy 33 (I’m 28) for 3 months. We hit it off from the start. We talked every day saw each other twice a week, and he put in mad effort, even got me gifts. I was really falling for him. Then, out of nowhere his texts went cold. He came over and said he couldn’t do it anymore needed to work on himself and couldn’t give me what I needed. I told him I’d miss him and he said he wanted to stay friends but I told him I couldn’t do that. It’s been two months and I miss him every single day. I can’t stop thinking about him. I texted him the first week but all I got back were those generic responses. How do I move on from this? It’s getting harder and harder. I had so much fun with him and now he’s just stuck on a pedestal in my mind.
Last updated on:2025-02-28T12:18:36+05:30
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Same thing happened to me. We dated for 2 months and my ex went all out for me flowers plushies gifts all that. Everything was moving way too fast. She spent $400 on my bday gifts after like a month and a half but we barely knew each other. It felt like I was suddenly the love of her life and I don’t know why she was doing all that. I fell too deep too quick and became super obsessed and dependent. She helped me grow and become my best self but honestly I wasn’t even into her at first. She wasn’t my type at all but once we started talking and vibing I couldn’t help it.
I didn’t text her for a day cause I was in my head and she went distant. A week later she broke up with me saying her mental health was in a bad place and she couldn’t handle a relationship. She said she needed space for herself friends and family. It messed me up cause I didn’t know if it was really about her mental health or if me not texting caused it. I apologized and tried to fix things but she wouldn’t really communicate what was going on.
Looking back I realize love bombing can be a sign of dependency or mental health struggles. My ex had childhood trauma anxiety PTSD fear of the dark nightmares—stuff that made her seek comfort in relationships. She couldn’t be alone and dated to feel loved but also spent a lot of time with friends. There were times she needed space though.
After the breakup I saw more red flags I missed. I was blinded by the good stuff. Even though I know we weren’t right for each other it’s still hard to move on. I think about her all the time and feel lost demotivated and depressed. But I know I need to accept it focus on myself figure out my passion again and take a break from relationships to learn to love myself.
I felt the same way at first, was lowkey worried it was lovebombing but the vibe was so good I convinced myself it was chill. He even kept saying he was scared I’d do exactly what I did to him. Sorry that happened to you tho!! Honestly worst feeling ever. I really hope it gets better cause right now I don’t feel like it will.
@silverpower Yeah I couldn’t help but realize her mental health wasn’t in a good place and she wasn’t really ready for a relationship before we started. I ignored all the signs and got way too attached. Sorry this happened to you too it’s honestly the worst feeling. I feel the same like I don’t know if I can ever move on from her. My last ex took me over 2 years to get over and even though this relationship was only 2 months it was honestly the best one I’ve had. So I’m just really hoping I can get past this and start focusing on myself again.