He cheated lied and manipulated me… was with his ex the whole time we were together… even slut shamed her. His ex was pregnant with his kid. It was one lie after another. I was dating someone way below my level and idk why I keep attracting these types of guys. He’s 29 no stable income no goals, into substances… and I still accepted him for who he was. But when I found out about the cheating I dipped. I was keeping NC but then his emails started showing up just to gaslight me and play the victim. After the breakup he went straight back to his ex. He’s sleeping with her then texting me like he’ll do anything to get me back. Like lol. When I call him out he says he’d never take me back and like who wants a cheater and manipulator back? Then he starts throwing shade about my life being a mess and all that. The way he manipulated and cheated I never thought he was capable of this. Before I caught him everything seemed so perfect except he’d go like thirst traps on Insta. I called him out and he stopped but only for a bit. Everything felt real. I’ve got my career and exams but I can’t even focus on studying. Everything reminds me of him. The betrayal hit so hard and when I get those emails I’m triggered and fire back then lose my appetite for like 2-3 days. I can’t concentrate. Is something wrong with me? Why can’t I just move on? Any advice would be so helpful.
Last updated on:2025-03-27T17:55:53+05:30
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same happened to me. chat got says: limbic system and pre-frontal system in the brain work at different paces and information processing. one part is rational and knows its wrong, the other longs for confort and routine and doesn’t understand something changed so will ask for old habits back. incuding harmed love because in that part the love isnt tainted yet, only in the racional part of the brain. so thats why it takes time and new habits for it to learn new confort and learn the tainted
Ghost him. He's not worth your time.
Block delete repeat. Cut him off completely.
Don't give him the attention.
Block him sis
Find a solid homie to hold it down while you cry. Get real close to someone you trust call when you’re struggling text when you need advice. Not everyone has that but trust me it makes things way easier. Having someone to listen won’t erase the pain completely but it helps more than you’d expect. I’ve been tryna find a friend like that no luck so far but I still make sure to hit up my people and show love even if it’s just for a bit.