so i’m 33 now and i broke up with her (she's 32)

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so i’m 33 now and i broke up with her (she's 32) like almost 3 years ago
back then my head just wasn’t in the right place and i kinda pushed her away
we were only together for like 9 months but she was actually really special
looking back i don’t think i realized just how amazing she was
i haven’t hit her up or told her how i really feel since
part of me’s scared tbh
scared of bringing up old stuff or hurting her again
also lowkey ashamed cuz i know i hurt her and that’s the last thing i wanna do
but honestly i still miss her
i think about her more than i’d wanna admit

Last updated on:2025-04-08T14:05:37+05:30

Comments (15)

GoddessBK
GoddessBK 11 mths ago

just let her be man. you already broke her enough

Abrors
Abrors 11 mths ago

Trust me bro you don’t want her.

myselfNeel
myselfNeel 11 mths ago

dude just reach out. if you don’t it’s gonna eat you alive fr

esns524
esns524 11 mths ago

if youve put in the work then yeah def reach out
just make sure youre in a good headspace and ready in case it doesnt go how you hope i reached out too and it didnt work out in the end it hurt a lot but i’m still glad i gave it a shot i just wasnt in the right mindset back then was super locked in on one outcom if you do reach out maybe just say its been on your mind and that youve done a lot of work on yourself. let them know youd really want a chance
but also know its basically like starting over it won’t feel the same right away you’ll prob have to go through some rough patches first

conciousmind
conciousmind 11 mths ago

thanks man and sorry to hear about your situation too i feel like it’s usually when we’re not in the best headspace that we wanna reach out but when life’s going alright we kinda just focus on moving forward and don’t really look back or feel the need to reach out

loveloser
loveloser 11 mths ago

if you still miss her and you’re the one who ended it might be worth taking the chance to see if you can fix things
no clue if it’ll actually work out but right now you just don’t know she could be totally over it or she might still think about you and want the same thing
it’s not all on you but since you ended it the ball’s kinda more in your court to make a move

conciousmind
conciousmind 11 mths ago

thanks :) and i hope you find love someday too no matter where it comes from

Maxman
Maxman 11 mths ago

no way back now.. she’s cut off all contact got me muted everywhere but still not blocked
i miss my person more than anything fr
life’s short every day i’m stuck thinking what if i don’t think you’ve got much to lose by reaching out... just to see if there’s still something there between you two

conciousmind
conciousmind 11 mths ago

she blocked me on everything from day one i think she was just protecting herself
that’s why i’ve been unsure about reaching out
but honestly life’s short
i think about the what ifs a lot
you don’t really lose anything by reaching out and seeing if there’s still something there

Pookiepie
Pookiepie 11 mths ago

yo if u still got a way to hit her up then fr do it
like if it's been this long and u still not over it and ain't feelin any better
just reach out
tell her where u messed up n how u been
see where she's at
but also be ready in case she moved on or got someone else now

conciousmind
conciousmind 11 mths ago

thanks and fr you're right lol yeah the thought of her being with someone else lowkey holds me back too maybe part of me would rather just live in the delulu than face reality tbh

Pookiepie
Pookiepie 11 mths ago

@conciousmind look at it this way okay like if you’ve grown since the last time y’all talked wouldn’t you wanna let her know you’re doing better now at least a little

conciousmind
conciousmind 11 mths ago

@Pookiepie good point... yeah i'd really wanna tell her how i actually feel... even if she's with someone new... right now it just hurts

Pookiepie
Pookiepie 11 mths ago

@conciousmind what hurts more... not telling the person you once loved that you’ve grown. you’re better now and you’re open to at least being friends again

conciousmind
conciousmind 11 mths ago

@Pookiepie fr that's sweet of you.. appreciate it :)