i don't know why I was worried about him initiating contact after our "one month no contact then we try to be friends rule," he didnt; maybe he's waiting for *me* to initiate contact? I dont think i will. if he's as avoidant with his just-friends as he gave me the impression, or if he'll be avoidant and toxic similar to how he was when we were dating... I dont want it. I consider myself a high maintenance friend who likes closeness. (I'm not saying all avoidant people are toxic, but he definitely was). he still adds me on tik tok and not gonna lie, I'm actually considering blocking him this time; because why does he think he's allowed to check up on me when I have radio silence from him? thats not fair. it was funny at first, like playing a game, but it's lowkey not funny anymore
Last updated on:2025-05-12T10:42:00+05:30
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If he’s not putting in the work why let him stay on the sidelines? You deserve better.
You’re realizing what you actually need in a friendship and if he doesn’t fit that then no need to keep him around.
Funny at first exhausting now when something starts feeling more draining than entertaining it’s a sign to let it go.
If he wanted to be a real friend he’d show up not just lurk. You deserve more than silent social media interactions.👍
Choosing peace over uncertainty is powerful. If he’s inconsistent now imagine how frustrating it’ll be later trust your instincts.
Definitely go ahead with it.If your ex wants to enjoy your presence without the real involvement be the one to break that toxicity
Totally feel this. like he wants the comfort of your presence without the effort of real connection. That’s not friendship, thats emotional convenience. Youre right to protect your space. Just because someone had access to you once doesn’t mean they get lifetime privileges.
Youre not a show for him to casually tune into whenever he feels like it. Blocking might just be the peace you need cos if he wanted to really be in your life, he’d act like it.
you know you have got to set your own boundaries for him like he does for you.