he also deleted me off of social media which is affecting me because it was my last bit of hope he wanted me still. after a month after the breakup. my ex called me.. he wanted to know if I'm still in therapy and how it was going and what I learned from it... he told me he was also going to therapy. but then he kept saying don't get your hopes up. we may or may not be together, then he said we may or may not cross paths again, and then he said maybe God put me in ur life to get you away from ur last relationship (a lesson). it hurt me hearing this because I feel like we can make it work. he also said we arent compatible. he told me he misses me, he called me honey, and we talked for an hour before he hung up. he told me he was proud of me for finishing school. but he also told me not to reach out, he will call me again soon. he said dont expect it to be tomorrow or in a week but we will talk soon. I was so happy to hear from him, but after a while I realized I was getting mixed signals from him... he doesnt know what he wants and that's scaring me... ihate this and the fact I havent seen him since January is really affecting me now. i dont think ill ever see him again. I hate long distance relationships.
Last updated on:2025-05-21T12:21:03+05:30
Comments (11)
Healing starts when you stop waiting for someone to make up their mind about you. You deserve certainty not confusion.
Long distance is hard but what’s harder is dealing with someone who won’t give you consistency.
A relationship should feel secure not like a guessing game. You’re worthy of love that doesn’t leave you questioning.
He’s unsure of what he wants but that doesn’t mean you have to sit in limbo waiting for him to figure it out.
It’s painful when someone won’t give you clarity but uncertainty is its own answer you deserve something more certain.
Him saying don’t get your hopes up but still calling and saying he misses you that’s emotional whiplash and you deserve better.
Mixed signals do nothing but mess with your emotions. If he doesn’t know what he wants don’t let that confusion pull you back in.
minds games. you are worth more than that! he is missing out on a wonderful thing. focu on you sweetheart. if it's meant to be it's meant. but domt hold yo breathe. he sound like he's not emotional available mentally in that deal with you.
it seems like He wants you to be available at his will since he may still not be over you but doesn't wanna give you the opportunity.Would recommend staying in No contact and connecting with genuine people who care about you and support you
I'm sorry you're going through this but I think he's pulling you in and then pushing you away. would you be able to not be in contact with him, cut him out completely, it's the only way to move forward and not be stuck on the cycle. He has made clear statements about where he stands maybe just listen to them and ignore the breadcrumbs he throwing in-between. I'm sorry I'm not saying this to hurt you xx
He does know what he wants. its just that he isnt able to stick to it. I am sorry to bring you the bad news but it does seem that he has moved mostly. you should too. whatever happens hope you are able to find love with him or withouot him.. hugsss