I messaged his mom to wish her a happy 4th. told her I missed her son and she told me to reach out. i did and he replied which made me feel happy but before we stopped talking I set my boundary and told him if we are trying to reconnect, you need to communicate with me more not just disappear on me for a month then reappear. he said its gonna be a very slow process and its gonna be complicated between us (trust needs to be built, and work). he told me he wasnt ghosting me but if I didnt text him happy 4th, he would of never messaged me and its been 28 days. so I think hes just lying. he said hes not ready to jump back into things like nothing happened, we need to do a talking stage first, and he wants to talk about my therapy session. whenever he reaches out again. this time there was no I love you, I miss you... it felt so lonely and upsetting... but when he text me again, I just want clarity and to know if he really does what to work it out or not.... what do u guys think? its been almost 3 months since we broke up and we talked for 8 days since the break up.
Last updated on:2025-07-06T11:21:02+05:30
Comments (12)
It’s great that you’re asking for clarity. Ifhe really wants to work things out he’ll put in the effort to rebuild trust.
You’re handling this so maturely. Setting boundaries and asking for clarity is the best way to protect your heart.
You deserve someone who communicates openly and consistently. Trust takes time but actions speak louder than words.
It’s good that you’re prioritizing your boundaries. If he’s serious he’ll show it through consistent effort.
You’re being so strong by asking for clear communication. Take your time and make sure his actions match his words.
you’re doing the right thing by setting boundaries. Clarity is definitely important in situations like this.
It seems like he is taking the time he needs , and if he wants to , he will.make it work , It would be better if you give yourself the time and space to accept that so that you don't have to face any problems later
if he chooses u, he will always choose u. That's it, no bs u rn. im a man, if he chooses you, he will choose you. Disappearing for a month??? how immature is that?? even if u 2 did work today, tommorow does not guarantee a chabge from him or next month or year. look sis, idk what you did to make him that way, but if he is like that even when ure in good terms, its time to wave your past sis. he didn't text u for 28 days unless u texted him first??? nah, thats already a red light sis. unless u made him sad before this? but if u are good and if u didn't do anything that breaks his heart. 28 days with no talking and him telling himself that if u dont text him he will not reach out to you? sorry sis, thats not love, and im sorry to say this, its time to choose you. after all this end, choose you, no emotional rebound no anything.... choose you. there will be someone out there that will love you and matches you. But it wont happen quick. its time to heal, let go and be the person that protect you when u were a child. Ask yourself, will you hurt the kid version of yourself?? the one that fought and continue to grow till u are today??? will u hurt her feelings? it is time to move on and choose you. U feel lonely and upsetting? u have us, we all go through this together in this app
yeah he set the boundary to not reach out but he will.. the last time we talked I brought up how we were happy this time last year and that pushed him away. its been 3 months almost since the break up and he said it was because I'm controlling. Ugh its so hard. I love him
@Chrissy15 yes ik u love him sis, but from me a man and a boy, its just not right yk?? i dont need to explain this, yk it already. let it go sis, this time u can learn from this past and applied it in your next, but with a better version of you. Heal yourself, dont chase for someone who does not CHOOSE you, who will not be ready to SACRIFICE for you. Love takes time, and that time of yours is not deserved for anyone that keeps us hanging. my sis, my so called partner left me 4 days ago, im still fresh. lets start healing together in this app and keep updated on all of us
@CozyVibe412 thank you. okay starting my no contact clock again for good this time. we got this.
@Chrissy15 yes thats it 'WE'. you are not alone in this sister, WE got this. move forward, be strong