i've been in a relationship with this person since last year on the 20th of august , i was actually the one who texted him first on facebook...we started talking on the 19th...
mind you , we skipped the talking stage & went straight to a relationship , not until the day we first met on the 25th of august...i went to his house , we chilled but while we were chilling he was playing PS instead of giving me the attention...about 30 minutes later we went to the bedroom & he massaged me , after the massage he asked if we could have sex & i asked him if i could trust him...he said yes...we had sex , he broke my virginity...i went back home.
we had sex for like 3 times after , but every time i visited him he never gave me food or even snacks he just wanted to have sex & we never really talked a lot , the worst part is i would use my own money for transport just to go & see him..
& then in november i broke up with him...wrote the longest paragraph only for him to reply with a sticker...i was so hurt , & then in december i texted him & lied to him & told him that i was pregnant but i got a miscarriage , instead of saying lets meet up he just said he will call....
he called and we fixed things again , but the problem with this guy is that he doesn't put in any effort in our relationship , he loves me but just doesn't know how to show me , i can't be myself around him , he never remembers my birthdays & our anniversaries , i told him my birthday date about 5 times but he still forgets...he doesn't know my fav movie , snacks , songs etc...he just doesn't care about any of those... we broke up again in january this year...i blocked him for two months & then i unblocked him in march , still he didn't put any efforts & maybe call with a different number to try & find out whats hapoening , he just went silent...we started talking again & fixed things but still he dud not change , after a week i broke up with him , he never begged but he claims that he begs me every single time we broke up...we stayed in contact until i decided to officially cut things off in july the 7th...i blocked him & told him for the first time what i really wanted in our relationship & then blocked him...i unblocked him again on the 19 & told him i still want him back...he promised to change & honestly this time it felt real not until on the 25th when he said that he wants to see me & i should come see him...with what ? my money again ? when will he come see me ? i must always be the one who goes to him...that actually turned me off & showed me that i no longer love this person like the first time & he is the one who loves me more this time...i lost interest but i still love him , nigga made me beg for the bare minimum , he made me settle for less than what i deserve & now i finally see that i deserve more than what i settled for...so now i don't know what to do, if i should carry on with tge relationship or leave him alone , i need advice
Last updated on:2025-07-29T09:22:13+05:30
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he doesn't love, you where carring that whole relationship on your own
Not even snacks, doesn’t care to remember your birthday…that’s cold. Please believe me, there’s somebody out there that will be excited to cherish you and feed you and want to know everything about you.
i stayed with someone like that way too long. always convincing myself this time would be different. it never was. the moment i stopped begging for love was the moment i started finding peace. whatever you decide i hope you choose you. every time.
he gave you just enough to keep you hoping but never what you actually needed. been there. it’s exhausting.
i feel this in my bones. the part where you used your money your time your energy just to be met with crumbs… yeah. that kind of hurt stays in the body. you didn’t deserve that.
girl you already answered your own question. the moment you said he made me beg for the bare minimum. that’s the truth. you were showing up, over and over, and he couldn’t even give you snacks? not even remember your birthday after 5 times? nah. not done.
you broke your own heart trying to fix his. that’s the part that hurts. but the fact that you’re seeing it now.. that’s power. trust what’s waking up inside you. it’s clarity.
leaving will be the best decision i guess. 😞
i did this exact dance. begged to be seen. kept going back hoping this time he’d finally get it. he never did. and every time i went back, i lost a little more of myself. leaving wasn’t easy, but staying was soul rot.