Heyyy!! I think one of my greatest virtues is being able to handle going full No Contact

Heyyy!! I think one of my greatest virtues is being able to handle going full No Contact, and not going back to any of my exes, even if I’m dying inside or they show up outside my house playing sad music. So I wanted to share some of the things I do that actually help me survive the process!!

1. First thing I do when the breakup happens: BLOCK. EVEEERYWHEREEEE.
This is the best thing you can do. Yeah, it stings a little, but you know what hurts way more? Seeing their posts or getting random messages from them. So I block them everywhere.
I also delete any shared apps or remove any possible form of contact. Zero communication. And, I keep everything that reminds me of him in some dark corner, impossible to see at first glance.

2. I know it’s hard not to unblock them right after step one...
So I download an app that blocks other apps. There are plenty of “digital detox” ones out there. I use it to block my social media accounts so I don’t get tempted.
I also try to avoid TikTok (because the algorithm loves to show you breakup content when you're down).
And since I’m not emotionally ready to delete our photos yet, I block access to my photo gallery too.

3. About WhatsApp and general contacts: I rename them.
I change their names in my phone to something they actually said to me.
For example, one of my exes called me a “dramatic idiot,” so I saved his contact as “Dramatic Idiot.”
Another one said, “I don’t love you anymore,” so his name became exactly that: “I Don’t Love You Anymore.”
So, if they ever text again, I don’t see “Babe” or “My Love” popping up. I see “Dramatic Idiot” or “I Don’t Love You Anymore,” and that alone reminds me of why I shouldn’t reply. Brutal but effective.

4. I cry. And I let myself listen to sad music.
Those first few days? I allow myself to feel everything.
I create a Spotify playlist like a final love letter through songs.
Every time I hear lyrics that say what I wish I could say to them, I add it to the playlist.
Trust me, at first, it’s all Mitski-level sadness, but eventually, the songs get lighter. You start with “Nobody” and end with “War Is Over.”

5. I write them letters... but never send them.
Write in your notes app. Tell them about your day, your feelings, your “what ifs.”
Make a fake chat if that helps. But don’t send anything. It’s all just for you, your own emotional release.

6. Talk to friends, but only the right ones.
Choose people who aren’t connected to your ex.
You can vent, cry, or just talk about random stuff, but avoid anyone who might judge you or bring up your ex. You know who’s safe and who’s not.

7. Busy minds don’t miss anyone. 👁👁

8. Make a pros and cons list of your relationship, honestly.
It’s okay to miss them, but sometimes we glamorize the past or romanticize what wasn’t real.
Be objective. You’ll start to see it wasn’t all sunshine and butterflies...
And who knows? You might even start feeling grateful that you no longer cry at 1 AM from anxiety.

9. When you're ready, do a symbolic goodbye.
Most people skip this step, but I think it's a powerful way to say:
"Okay... I won’t reach out anymore. And if you do, I won’t respond either."
There are tons of rituals out there to help with this, burning a letter, burying a box, whatever works for you.

Bonus: A book that helped me a lot:
“Ya te dije adiós, ahora cómo te olvido?” (I already said goodbye, now how do I forget you?)
It’s by Walter Riso, an Argentine-Italian psychologist.
It’s in Spanish, and I’m not sure if there’s an English version... but if you do speak Spanish, it’s one of the best breakup recovery books ever. Super detailed advice and really comforting.
If you don’t speak Spanish, well... thank the internet for PDFs and translators. Worth it.

Come on! We can all do it. The tears dry!!.

Last updated on:2025-08-07T03:47:03+05:30