anyone know what to do? me and my ex are currently broken up because he needs to “be happy within himself to be happy in a relationship” and he “doesn’t want to bring me into his unhappiness” and he said he would most likely come back after a bit of no contact. its only been two days but he’s followed a bunch of new girls and has been adding people on snap and one of them was a mutual friend (who he doesn’t know i know) who showed me the messages of them talking and he told her that he lost feelings and he wish he didn’t because he doesn’t want to hurt me and he cares about me and stuff and saying he most likely won’t go back unless he starts to miss me and sees me and regains feelings. i don’t know whether to wait around or not because he’s genuinely my first love and i don’t picture myself with anyone but him and we’ve been on a break before and it took a month then he asked to see me and we came back better and stronger than the last time. but now that it’s happened again and he said to someone else that he most likely won’t come back even tho he told me he probablt will my hope is mostly gone. but at the same time he does have bad mental issues so idk if he’s just self sabotaging if that makes sense???
Last updated on:2025-08-26T09:31:42+05:30
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If you keep contacting him and begging him to get back together, he knows he's in control. Don't give him that power over you.
it’s so hard for him to not have that power yk what i mean like im trying but ik i wont be strong enough to not take him back if he does come back like idk how to get the strength to do that
Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me. He's done this to you twice. Don't give him the chance to do it a third time. Move on and focus on yourself and your healing.
he’s saying one thing to you and another thing to other people. i’ve seen that happen before, the person left behind starts questioning if it was about mental health or if he just wanted out.
yeah exactly i truly belive what he said to me is correct and maybe he’s just trying to protect himself and his masculinity and instead of saying his mental health to others he just says he lost feelings - but i feel like that also sounds pretty delusional
Given the mixed signals and conflicting information, it's essential to prioritize your own emotional well-being. Consider the following:
1. Evaluate his actions vs. words: He's followed new girls and told a mutual friend he lost feelings, which contradicts his promise to potentially return.
2. Reflect on your feelings: You're torn between holding onto hope due to past experiences and feeling uncertain about the future.
3. Consider his mental health: His struggles may contribute to his actions, but it's not your responsibility to fix or wait indefinitely.
4. Focus on self-care: Use this time to prioritize your own growth, well-being, and happiness.
Ultimately, whether to wait or move on is a personal decision. Take time to reflect on what you want and need from the relationship, and consider seeking support from friends, family, or a therapist.
my first love broke up with me but still told me he cared. i kept waiting on every little word, hoping it meant something more. i know that feeling of not being able to picture anyone else. it’s like your brain just won’t let go yet.
girl i'm gonna hold your hand if i will say this okay? he is not the one for you, the fact that he is already adding and talking to bunch of girls is already a major red flag. don't make any excuses for him, because that kind of guy will most likely to cheat in a relationship. so never look back again and just totally cut him off. it's clear for me that you are just a convenience for him, because if he truly loves you he will work on himself and will not involve other girls.
thats the thing i think hes just doing all this to fill the empty space and time he’d spend with me like chatting to other people online and stuff but idk i just want him to be better and i do believe he can change but i just dk how long that may take and i dont wanna waste my life waiting around
@JazzSnap917 the decision is up to you. you will take all the responsibility after all
when my ex said all that i need to work on myself stuff i found out later he was already talking to other girls. it made me feel like a total idiot for even holding hope. i hated how quick he moved like the last years didn’t even matter.
i was in same situation as you. He have some issue and which I see, he was manipulating you so don't wate him. Don't brake no contact for real, don't. But my opinion if you love him send like thousand message to him and see if its worth. But for me it isn't worth. You are strong and you will have someone who truly loves you and take care of you. Love youuu❤️❤️❤️❤️
thankyou. two days ago i was begging to still be in contact which just ended in him constantly saying i love you and im sorry and all that and i just want to pour my heart out again but i know it wont change anything he will just keep saying the same things i just wish he understood how much hes hurting me in this process
@JazzSnap917 i can add you on instagram and help you forgiving him. I broke up with mine like 4 days ago I think
@JazzSnap917 its hard but it sounds like you deserve much better than the treatment you are currently experiencing.