I have to meet my ex soon to give him back all the stuff that i haven’t gotten to yet because im on a trip (yes he broke up with me on call on my trip losing feelings after to years and my room is still filled with all his stuff) im scared to face him and restart all the progress i made. any advice
Last updated on:2025-08-28T02:25:24+05:30
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lovley you. I am in the same situation. Put his stuff outside your door and make him pick it up ny himself. You dont need to fave him. Stay inside and lock the door and set a date and time for him to Come by.
If you don't want to see him, you could:
1. Mail it to him
2. Leave it on his doorstep
3. Have an intermediary deliver it
i have to do this soon as well. My boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me 2 days ago and I'm scared of having to do this. I can't bear the idea that it will be out last hug, last forehead kiss, last everything.
it feels like the part that scares you most isn’t even him, it’s that your space still has his stuff in it. once it’s out, the room will look different. that might matter more than the few minutes you see him.
sitting in my car holding a box of his things and my hands were shaking. i thought i’d cry when i saw him but i didn’t. it was fast, just a quick exchange, then i got to breathe again. it didn’t undo my progress the way i feared.
my ex dumped me right before i had to fly out too. i came back to a room that looked like he still lived there. felt sick just seeing his hoodie on my chair. i wanted to throw it in the trash but i couldn’t. when i finally gave it all back i didn’t say much, just handed him the bag and left. didn’t even look at his face.
I am soon going to be in the same position.
I would only do it if you feel strong. if it would be better to have someone there with you, maybe consider that or just not be there when he takes his stuff?
Also, maybe seeing him will help you actually get over him..there are different things that can be taken away from seeing him I guess...
for me, never see him again because you might gain your feelings again and all your sacrifices and efforts will put to waste in forgetting him. but if you really need to give him back his things then just leave it somewhere and let him pick it up it wasn't your responsibility at all to bring him back his things.
i would leave his stuff outside when he comes or get a neutral party to hand it to him. seeing him will hurt all over again.