How its to be like this? and how can i support persom like that? My ex gf was like this and i only realised that after she breakup with me (7days from now ;( ) And the thing is she didnt ever told me she was having some issues (reason for the breakup was that she didnt love me anymore) and i wanna know if its that the case. I still love her and care for her deeply and i want to understand what shes going through. So i can support her even if we just stay friends
Last updated on:2025-09-23T04:21:03+05:30
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you think she actually wants you to still be close right now, or is that more something you hope for? it can make a difference in how you show up for her.
sometimes people don’t open up because they’re already halfway out the door, or they don’t even know how to put it into words. it sucks. what’s helped me is reminding myself i can’t support someone who doesn’t want me in that role anymore.
damn, reading this feels like me a year ago. my ex also left saying “i don’t love you anymore” but later i found out she’d been struggling silently. i kept replaying everything in my head, wishing she’d just told me. that confusion hits the hardest.
I thought the same after my first break up with an avoidant guy. exactly same situation like yours. No conversation, nothing. out of the blue. then we got back together and then fell out again. it took me three tries of going back and forth supporting him and being rejected and him coming back and then saying he didnt feel it anymore again and again until i realized i need to run. and blocked him everywhere. In all channels. maybe you need to go through the same to realize it's hopeless and that you need to save yourself. she wont change unless she goes in therapy. usually they dont.