He showed up after 17 days. I am not sure if I should just go back to him because I was really hurt in these days. What if there'll be no changed behaviour? I'm scared to go through the same thing again if something happens. I'm not sure if it's okay to respond to him.
Last updated on:2025-10-13T11:30:59+05:30
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mine broke my heart 4 times before it was final. I gave him 4 chances knowing deep in my gutts it wont work if he doesnt go into therapy. he didnt. one month after the 4th chance he left me saying he tried to be in a relationship but he couldnt (he tried in his head, no actions or conversations with me happened). it's been a month since i blocked him and I know that was the end of all ends. listen, if you want to try again try again. you will know you put all the effort and he wont have nothing to say that you didnt try. And maybe in your case it will be different. But seriously if he doesnt actually try to change something the chances are very low, so it's up to you if you want to take this risk.THERAPY is the only thing that shows he wants to change. good luck!
sounds very simular I couldn't just leave him tho I had put a lot in to this relationship and he keeps telling me he didn't want no one else till he did and I was so ensalted supposed to be some one who called me ma and I was so just like lost but now I'm trying to move on and now the dreaming of him started never when we was together did I dream really of much and I don't recall any of him till now I don't get it
Is this how my ex felt, I didn't catch her code for me to chat more about my life. I assumed she meant something else. After the breakup I even tried to change into what she wanted because I was confused and just then understood what she wanted. If he is the same as me please give it a chance honestly I've done everything I can to please her but I'm stiff in communication, I really love her if I'm given another chance I will develop to change for the better. Now i know what to do. Idk if im avoidant or not but i do know that i'm suck at texting
i tried to give her space and contact her slowly cause i want to fix our problem, i keep trying to have a conversation like there's nothing happened between us because I wanted to calmed her feelings down, and I'm scared because every time I try to bring up old issues it makes her remember her disappointment.
Now she is very close to another man, and I am truly hurt. Even though I genuinely want her to be happy. I feel betrayed, I am no longer her boyfriend tho so I don't have the right. I hope she knows that I love her more than anyone else and that I want to do whatever she wants and grow for her. This is just a misunderstanding.
was it the first breakup? reason of breakup? who broke up? it all matters… I hope you’re okay and don’t rush anything.
what made you feel hurt during those 17 days — was it the silence itself or how he handled things before that?
it was his silence and since he's avoidant, every fight felt like it was only harming me and so this time I decided to be in nc. but it was tough. I tried my best to not reach him out.but he's texting me as if nothing really happened. and I don't want to return to the same loop.
@SweetVibe350 then you have your answer. Stay strong in your heart ❤️
17 days is a long time for him to reach out. consistency and respecting your feelings is important
maybe don’t rush to respond. let him show consistency first. if he really wants back in, he’ll wait while you decide. actions > words, always.
mine came back after disappearing for weeks too. i wanted to believe it’d be different but deep down i knew the pattern hadn’t changed. that fear is real, and valid. 💔