I’m 25 yrs old and idk if i want kids. We started dating june 14 broke up in october 11. He knew my stance but changed his mind over the last two months of our relationship. it was a short relationship but he was my first love and it hurts so bad. he think he’ll regret me over time. i get his choice but we were a match until that. and i would have given him kids but just not now. he wants them before 30 and i want them in my mid 30’s. i’m so sad because he was my everything and my emotional anchor. i have literally no one else. its so silent without him. It makes me think he never loved me because true love prevails through hardship and he didnt even wanna try. i feel worthless & i just want to forget this happened
Last updated on:2025-10-22T05:56:07+05:30
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do you think part of why it hurts so bad is because you feel like you’d have eventually met him halfway if he’d just stayed?
YES. thats literally what i told him. that i just have to grow into it bc its not an easy decision. i love children, but im a woman and its more work for me. but i would do it for him and it wasnt enough
the silence after losing your emotional anchor is brutal. i remember how empty everything felt. what helped me a little was filling the quiet with small things that made me feel alive again — music, walks, friends, anything. not to erase him, just to remind myself i still existed outside of him.
im trying :( its so hard. work helps. when im alone tho i cant stop crying.
my ex left because he wanted to settle down sooner and i wasn’t ready yet either. it’s such a mindfuck when love feels right but timing ruins everything. i used to replay it thinking “if he really loved me, he’d wait.” took me a long time to realize it’s not about not being enough — it’s about him not being able to hold the uncertainty.
:( i hate that so much for us. Thanks for the kind words