he broke up with me bc he wants kids before 30 and i want them in my mid 30’s. we dated 4 months, are no contact for one week now but should i text to give it another chance? im so sad and i miss him. i really really really want to text him
Last updated on:2025-10-28T11:16:14+05:30
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do you think your future goals around kids could realistically align if you tried again, or would it just cause more heartbreak?
maybe if he just gave in a little. he wants someone that cooks and im open to learning rhat why cant he just wait a little before children?
i’ve learned giving it a bit of space helps clarity. texting now might just reopen the raw pain. focus on yourself this week
I will, i texted him bc i was so frickin lonely. big mistake. broke no contact for no reason
i broke up with my ex over timing issues too 😭 it’s rough wanting different things even if you still love them. sending you hugs
I wish i hated him, then i could move on. Im so tired
Nope, you must not. See, your goals and values do not match, and that's a very important aspect. Do not change your wishes and life goals for any guy. It will always lead to resentment later. Trust me on that. Delete his number and chat from your phone. You have to do this for yourself.
I wont change, but i still want him to be with me. Im so lonely is all.
@SweetNook111 why do you want that when he already showed you that you don't matter? This is exactly where we women always go wrong... Being emotional and giving power to the guy. Missing him and wanting him is a part of the healing process. You aren't alone in this. I have felt that too. It's been 4 months since my breakup from a 2 year long relationship. I still think of him, but the intensity has reduced. Why? Because I'm getting more and more clarity of what I want now and how messed up I was in this relationship. You are in your 20s, this is the time to focus on yourself and your career. Travel as much as you can. Join meetup groups and make new friends. As a 32+ year old, all I can say is don't make the mistakes that I did in my 20s. This time will never come back.