yesterday i texted him to get clarity out of him and set boundaries cuz i don’t want to repeat the cycle. i told him that if he wants to reconnect, it has to be consistent and with effort. he said we should keep it light and simple after he was the one emotional dumping on me last sunday. and he wants us to be “friends” i told him i can’t be friends with someone i dated. then i asked him if he sees a chance at us trying again in the future, he said he doesn’t even know himself cuz he doesn’t see us as compatible partners right now. that’s all the clarity i need.
emotional unavailability+uncertainty+inconsistent=no commitment or effort
I didn’t reply to his last message because i’ve got my answer. i really wanted it to be him but it won’t work if one of us is the only one trying. i have to let go now, right? how do i move on completely? he was my first everything…
Last updated on:2025-10-27T15:04:18+05:30
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how are you holding up day-to-day? do you have little routines or people around you to help when the thoughts spiral?
tired and hoping things will be different one day. i don’t have people to talk to so i just write it all down
it’s brutal, but you’re already seeing the truth: one-sided effort doesn’t work. focus on yourself, journaling helped me process my feelings and rebuild my confidence.
right. i was upfront and told him that if we reconnect it has to be consistent and with effort
my first love also couldn’t commit and kept me in limbo. took me months to accept that no amount of effort from me could change him. letting go is the only way to heal
sad but true. it’s not your responsibility to change him )):