its currently 1am...
for context, my bsf and a few of my other close friends works for / under him.
one of my bsf told messaged me today saying that she was speaking to him today and he was saying with such confidence that "he swears he will marry me one day"
and its not like we broke up because of things he done recently...
mostly because I have never been single since I was 13, currently 20 years old ( female )
and I saw a small problem, and called no contact, mostly so I can heal and have me time you know, learn about me, learn to be single, "im still young, I have the rest of my life to be in a relationship" you know...
tbh im still trying to figure out why I really done it.
but like its been two weeks, and its been so hard...
also another thing is that we never really had arguments about "current relationship issues" mind you we have been together for 3 years
our only relationship arguments / issues has been either about:
- his past, I can't swallow it (I get easily jealous, and mind you he has NOT slept w anyone incl me)
- his friends who influence him, not in a way of "go talk to that girl", in a way of "stand up to your girl" like pls I like my man how he was, he always listened to me, even the most bazar requests I made it would get done, spends one day w his friends and all of a sudden he as a "say", when he was fine w it yesterday yk... when tomorrow comes he is his usual self again ( typing this thinking if im the problem )
- since 90% of the time he literally worships the ground i walk on, my opinion, my decisions etc, but when his frineds enter the room, thats the 10% part of him where we'd have arguments
- transparency, I trust HIM to be in a room full girls, but its them I don't trust you know... as wierd as that might sound, I fully and completely believe that this man would never cheat on me, but I have no doubt that there will be some girl that will try. so yeah he communicates well, but just isn't transparent at all times...
thats about it guys, advice anyone ?
Last updated on:2025-12-02T01:48:03+05:30
Comments (4)
you think about going back right now, is it because you miss him, or because being alone for the first time since you were 13 is scary as hell?
as they say it takes two to tango. and obviously you broke up for a reason. I would take this time to reflect gather your thoughts and gain some clarity. Like you said yes you do have your whole life in front of you. I would just live your life and enjoy it. I know easier said than done. but yes, you are young! My ex and I were together for 6 years We never had any arguments either however I just knew he wasn't the one. You don't need to be in a volatile relationship to see that you need to end things. One thing I learned is if he shows you any parts of him of who he is, believe him.... Even if it's 5%
the thing that’s helped me in moments like this is to slow down and not react to the fantasy version of him or the fantasy version of the breakup. like… let your reasons exist without trying to rewrite them. it’s ok that you miss him. it’s ok that he still says he wants you. none of that means you have to rush back before you’ve actually figured out what you want.
i did the whole “i need to learn how to be alone” thing too after being in relationships back to back. and i also had a guy who was sweet as hell 90% of the time but that 10% when his friends were around made me feel like i was suddenly fighting a whole squad instead of just him. it messed with my head the same way you’re describing. you’re not crazy for feeling torn like this