Most of my life I’ve struggled with low self-esteem and the feedback I received about my appearance was always negative. A while back I moved to another state for work and that’s where I met a wonderful woman. She was warm kind and eventually we started dating. She called me handsome told me she loved me and for the first time things felt really good. I even moved in with her.
She’s a very independent person and didn’t have much interest in physical intimacy. We slept in separate rooms because she valued her space and I respected that since I value mine too.
But over time her independence started to feel toxic. My needs thoughts and feelings didn’t seem to matter. I tried talking to her about it she would listen but nothing ever changed. I asked her to share her perspective but she rarely opened up. I knew I couldn’t force it so I tried to accept being at the bottom of her list of priorities.
Eventually I couldn’t take it anymore. The emotional and physical neglect became too heavy and we ended up having a fight that led to our breakup. There was no yelling no insults no drama just the end.
I feel like I did my best with her. I listened supported her helped with big and small things and loved doing little gestures to brighten her day. I appreciated the intimacy we did share and I never pressured her for more.
I’ve never felt pain like this before. I don’t know how to cope. I feel lost broken and I’ve cried for the first time since I was a child. What hurts most is grieving the future I thought we’d have together.
Does anyone have advice on how to ease this pain even just a little?
Last updated on:2026-02-05T18:10:04+05:30
Comments (3)
Shit it sounds like we even had same gf!
Currently going thru my first heart break as and it hurts sooo much
you understand independence and you don't drink or smoke? You haven't worked through a roster of women?
To me, you sound like a unicorn.
mate honestly first heartbreak you really knew what you had and what you lost. the crying thing is actually healthy even if it feels awful youve been holding that stuff in for decades probably