Why am i always the one fighting for us?

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In my relationship, I was always the one trying to hold things together. Whenever there was a problem, I would apologize, try to fix it, and even kneel and beg him to stay. But no matter what I did, he would always find something else to be upset about, often bringing up past issues and linking them to current fights. Sometimes he would forgive me — even for things I didn’t do — but I would take responsibility just to keep the peace. Whenever I tried to change, another issue would appear, and he would blame everything on me, even over petty arguments, often threatening to leave. By Monday, he framed the entire relationship and breakup as if everything was my fault. I felt like I was fighting alone for a relationship he didn’t want to fight for himself.

Last updated on:2026-03-05T11:01:04+05:30

Comments (7)

BBBlack
BBBlack 53 mins ago

i used to beg my ex to stay too, apologized for things i didn’t even do just to stop the fights. after a while i realized i was the only one trying to keep the whole thing alive and that HURT

PingJoy877
PingJoy877 6 hrs ago

Slap his face and move on! He is such a jerk

BlazeFox967
BlazeFox967 11 hrs ago

I 💯 understand you friend 🧡 upon his exit, he blamed me for everything, including his unhappiness, and deep rooted the seed that it really must be all my fault. IT IS NOT. It is not your responsibility to take accountability for someone else's unhappiness. Especially when everyone is in control of their own feelings. Keep your head up, keep moving forward, and know you're not alone ❤️

HushMoo449
HushMoo449 11 hrs ago

it's not a relationship if you're the only one working on it

SweetGlow450
SweetGlow450 11 hrs ago

you honestly deserve better

NovaWave601
NovaWave601 11 hrs ago

good riddance! you’ll find relief and release soon from that emo abuse

HexiZap636
HexiZap636 11 hrs ago

he is not as invested in the relationship as u, u deserve better, let him go