me and my ex were together for 2 years. the first year felt perfect but in the second year things slowly started falling apart. we both made mistakes i know that. we officially broke up in january but we still stayed in touch on and off after that.
in march i felt like maybe we could fix things so i reached out and suggested we just be friends for now. he kept saying he needs time and doesn’t want a relationship right now that it wouldn’t work at the moment but he still sees a future with me. i still convinced him to try and we talked for a few days but it got intense fast and ended with him pulling away again. he said he’s scared because of everything that happened between us even though he still believes there could be something in the future.
we had this long emotional call stayed up till 5am crying and when i asked him what he actually wants he said we’ll get back together someday. he’s always been avoidant doesn’t open up to people and i was the only one he’s ever been that vulnerable with.
now i’m just stuck. i love him and want to fix this but i don’t know if i should give it time or start letting go. i feel like we both still care about each other maybe we just need space… but i don’t know what usually happens in situations like this.
Last updated on:2026-03-30T22:52:48+05:30
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i just do the same i keep being on and off i know it isn't working i know it will never possibly work but i love him too much and i always have stupid fake hope that oh what if he'll after this and after that but he just doesn't and he'll never does that man can't love me he isn't for me I'm alone in his love he's ment for someone else and that hurts so terribly but i can't force it I'll just end up begging for love and care like a dog and I've already done that it's miserable then he just says there's no emotions in our relationship are you kidding me? there's every emotion possible you just out of it it's like it's only me in our relationship
do you feel like he’s actually working through his fears and showing up in any way, or are you the only one trying to keep this alive
i was with someone avoidant too and he’d say “not now but maybe later” and i clung to that for so long because it felt real… especially since he only opened up to me. it kept me stuck in that in-between for months
No. Stop pushing something that isn’t working.
End it.
this is exactly my situation. I broke no contact after 81 days though but still he's saying the same thing, he still needs time. I've decided to let him and focus on myself because I've really tried. we both hurt each other but I can't be the only one believing in us😩
he’s literally telling you exactly what he wants to not be in a relationship with you so stop trying to convince him otherwise and actually give him the space he’s asking for before you both end up resenting each other
I think it is time you start letting things go .Keeping in touch ultimately delays your healing and happiness