i was in a 5 year relationship before this and got cheated on it really messed with my confidence trust everything. a couple months later i joined dating apps out of curiosity and eventually met a woman who i truly believe is the love of my life.
in the beginning i was really guarded scared of getting hurt again. she understood that and we talked for about a year before i asked her to be my girlfriend. for a long time she was the one putting in most of the effort especially since i couldn’t drive back then. i felt guilty always relying on her but after passing my test a few months ago i started trying to show up more and make plans myself.
my past started creeping in though. small things would trigger me like a male coworker texting her or seeing him close to her in a photo. i brought it up but she felt i was being insecure. i know i wasn’t like this before but after being cheated on it’s hard not to have that guard up even though i trust her.
she ended things just after valentine’s day saying we’re not compatible and she needs to do what’s best for her. that hit hard because i had really seen a future with her.
now i’ve started a new job at the same company just a different branch and i’m worried it’ll constantly remind me of her. i know there were things i needed to work on and i’ve already reached out to a therapist to deal with my thoughts and fears.
i still feel like she’s the one. part of me wants to fight for her and show her how much she means to me but another part wonders if i need to let her go. she said she loves and cares about me and that nothing bad really happened between us which makes it even harder to accept.
Last updated on:2026-03-31T23:35:04+05:30
Comments (4)
you feel like you want her back because of who she is right now, or because she made you feel safe after what your ex did to you?
the disrespect was so loud, sorry didn't even make a sound. please don't let the disrespect of letting her back into your life affect the version of you that cried and was in pain.
after getting cheated on too, it messes with your head and suddenly everything feels like a threat even when it’s not. i lost someone good because i couldn’t quiet that fear, so i really feel what you’re carrying
In relationship takes two she bailed. I had a girl tell me that I was being insecure about her guy friends and turns out she was just sleeping with all of them. If you're thinking it's probably true that's what I found out in all my experience.
It sucks but she wasn't the one and you'll find it.