i still can’t wrap my head around it it feels unreal like i should wake up and none of this actually happened. he was so sure about us about wanting something long term and then it all flipped so fast i don’t even understand what changed. i keep replaying everything because i literally write down my days and nothing ever felt wrong in the beginning.
the first few months were genuinely so good. no red flags no weird energy just easy and exciting. he took me to the moma for our third date got me gifts made me feel chosen. when things started getting more serious he was the one pushing for it. he asked me to be his girlfriend introduced me to everyone like he was proud of me even used our relationship in a presentation like it meant something real to him.
when my anxiety kicked in and i got scared he might lose feelings i went to him about it. he reassured me so deeply told me he wanted me in his life and that i could always talk to him. i believed him. that’s what makes this hurt so much. because looking back he was already pulling away and i had no idea.
the shift was so subtle at first. one day we were fine the next he was talking about “gaps” in our connection. he wanted to pause anything physical to focus on building something deeper and i agreed because i thought we were working through things together. even on my birthday everything felt normal. he met my friends we spent time together nothing felt like it was ending.
but i started feeling it. that quiet distance. i asked him if we were okay and he said we were just figuring things out. then a couple days later he ended it. just like that. said we didn’t have a connection said there were “serious problems” i never even knew existed. it felt like he had a whole narrative in his head that he never shared with me.
what hurts the most is the way he handled it. all the reassurance all the “i’m here for you” just days before ending things. it makes everything feel fake. like he was already checking out while telling me everything was fine. he said he had been thinking about it for a while but that doesn’t match how he showed up with me at all.
i gave everything back i didn’t want anything around me that reminded me of him. but i can’t escape it in my head. i feel sick when i eat i wake up thinking about him i dream about him. i’ve cried more than i have in years. there’s so much anger mixed in with the hurt because i feel misled.
part of me thinks he’ll regret it later that maybe he rushed this decision. i don’t even want him back but i wish he’d at least come back and own what he did say sorry in a real way. he even said i could reach out for clarity but right now i can’t. i’m too hurt to even hear him out.
what i don’t understand is how someone can show up like that do all those things make you feel so sure and then just lose feelings out of nowhere. he said it wasn’t my fault but it’s hard not to question everything.
and now i still have to see him around hear his voice at the campus radio station like i can’t even get space from it. it just makes everything heavier. i don’t know how to shut it off or how to start feeling okay again.
Last updated on:2026-04-02T15:01:02+05:30
Comments (4)
when you think back, were there any small moments where he felt distant and you brushed it off, or does it truly feel like it came out of nowhere?
i know you want answers but honestly, the way he handled it already tells you a lot.
Oh that hurts, someone breaking up with you and not having the balls to actually say what exactly changed.
I hope you move on coz I know he'll try to come back after sometime and that will be him toying with your feelings
that exact switch. my ex was planning trips with me one week then telling me he “felt nothing” the next, it makes you question your own reality because it ALL felt real at the time