Last year, I ended things with him because I wanted to focus on myself. I told him to move on and not contact me ever again. After about 8 months, I reached out to him again in January. He added me back, but was very on and off. He told me he didn’t want to get attached again. After some time, we stopped talking for a week, then he came back, apologized, and we started talking again and dating for about 2 weeks. Then one morning, I suddenly woke up blocked everywhere. When I asked why, he said: “I moved on, so should you. Maybe in another life.” After that, he ignored me for about a month and a half. Then last week, he emailed me saying: “I’m sorry, I regret everything.” I gave him another chance, texted him, and even sent a voice message asking him to make up his mind, because I was confused. He ignored me again, and when I added him, he deleted my request.
From a man’s perspective: why would someone say they regret everything, then still avoid communication and ignore me AGAIN?
Last updated on:2026-04-05T15:13:41+05:30
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To be completely honest, I feel like your relationship is unfixable, at least at the moment. There could be plenty of reasons why he's been acting like this, maybe he hesitates between you and another girl, maybe he was never truly over you, perhaps he buried the pain and you reaching out made it explode inside of him, making him lost. Maybe he's afraid things will end the same, but still loves you.
There isn't one good answer, the only one who knows is him, and there is a chance even himself doesn't know what's going on with his emotions. I advise you try to move on, or if you really love him, then you need to give him time to love himself and then he'll cure his way of loving. Just tell him that he can reach out to you whenever he's ready, but don't force him to
i just sent him one last message, thank you!
I’m not a man but that sounds like textbook fearful avoidant attachment. It’s best if you let him go. He will continue this painful cycle with you forever unless he does serious work on himself. Fearful avoidants are literally the worst to deal with. They aren’t inherently bad people, they just have issues with vulnerability & oftentimes a deep fear of abandonment. I’d suggest looking up different attachment styles & see if any additional FA behaviors from him resonate with you.