Hi guys,
I need your help with a rather strange matter if it comes to breakup.
I'm going through a horrible break-up, like literally one that's draining the life out of me.
The problem is that he broke up with me, after almost 5 years, right before my final exams at the university.
I'm studying two full-time subjects simultaneously, at two universities. I have two final papers to finish and two final exams to pass as well.
I need to give 100% during the next 2 months and pass everything if I want to graduate. The problem is that I just can't get my work done. It's a lot and all that I'm thinking about it this relationship and what went wrong.
I wanted to ask if you have any tips on how I can focus on studies. I just can't seem to manage it anyhow. I try to learn but everything just flies out of my head. I already wasted 2 years, because life was rather challenging and I had to work instead of studying. I need to pass those exams in order to get my life together, and now I feel extremely stuck.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation? What helped you focus on studies instead of just rotting in bed consumed by dark and depressing thoughts? Is there any way to motivate myself?
I know that I'm fighting for my future right now, I'm just not sure if I have the strength for it inside. I want it, but I feel stuck and lost. I would really appreciate any tips.
Wishing you all the best in your hard times 💖
Last updated on:2026-04-09T19:15:16+05:30
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do you have anyone around you right now, like a friend or classmate, who could just sit with you while you study so you’re not alone in it?
Unfortunately no, but maybe just sitting with a friend on discord while learning wouldn't be such a bad idea?
I’m so sorry you’re having a hard time right now. I’ve actually been doing Amy Chan’s 'Breakup Boot Camp'—it’s 5 min video course each day, which has been great for processing things when I’m short on time. But if you’re looking for more personalized support, you might want to check in with one of the breakup coaches right here on the app. They’re usually the best bet for specific suggestions on how to navigate depression and motivation.
my ex left me right before my finals too and i remember staring at my notes and NOTHING would stick, like my brain just refused. i passed somehow but it felt like dragging myself through mud every single day
I'm so sorry to hear that :-( it literally feels like this for me as well now, hope it will get easier over time
The journaling will. I do it each morning, too. I've been where you are now - university finals. That is not funny. Your feelings for you ex MUST be sequestered. Studies have to come first. So box those ex thoughts into two time slots and the rest of each day, you and your studies come first! This is YOUR life, not his. You can do this. Game face on!! :-D
Thank you! Hope everything turned out great for you as well!
Allot ONE HOUR IN MORNING, ONE HOUR AT NIGHT TO MOURN YOUR EX - yell, journal, cry - then force yourself to focus. Get your game face on and study. If thoughts of him enter your head, tell yourself, No. Not right now. Only during those hours! I have my life to live!
Thank you for your advice, Dear! I'm already journaling. Hope this will make a difference over time and will help me fix my mind. Unfortunately, the crying comes rather unexpected.