He cheated on me with his ex he hated that was horrible to him and I treated him with nothing but love and kindness and he still went back to her and apparently he missed her for a while I got back with him gave him another chance but it wasn't working so we ended it again he said he'd work on him self but he's started smoking he spoke to his ex again although casual he promised he wouldn't and now apparently he doesn't love me the same anymore and doesn't want to see me even tho he begged to stay friends and said he loved me and hed wait for me and I'd be the one in the end but now it's like he doesn't care and it feels like I'm going insane and I've only not spoken to him for an hour I still love him so so much after all he did but I was perfect and he's over me now idk if he ever even loved me if he wanted his ex again and idk what to do I feel so lost and depressed and js keep crying but he still wants to be friends js only over text but also always seems annoyed at me and idk I'm so lost I feel like he might js be keeping me around as an option he was also my first love but I'm like his 5th girlfriend. I'm only confused bc like 3 days ago he'd send paragraphs of how much he loves me and how amazing I am but idk whats happend and he can't communicate
Last updated on:2026-04-12T19:58:03+05:30
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when you really sit with it, do you feel more calm and safe with him… or more anxious and unsure?
i know you still love him, but staying in contact kept reopening the wound for me every single time.
i was with someone who kept going back to the same ex he swore he hated, and i kept thinking if i just loved him better he’d finally choose me. he didn’t. that kind of confusion messes with your head so bad 💔
better keep him away! every time you miss him, try recall you are worthy of been seen and chosen as the only one.
because you are. little steps.
ive been the one that got chosen when the new relationship is starting. literally 2 years ago i was no contact with ex husband for 3mth, he came crawling back because he missed what we had, she wasnt like me etc. but the me that walked out was getting stronger and yea i took him back, but i saw no change to the man i left, and i copped it. i didnt trust him either, you cant have a relationship if theres no trust. i say focus on loving you, it does hurt while u wean off the connection, but you want to build a connection on trust and one where u feel valued
Ah girl that sounds so messed up. All those mixed signals are toxic stuff for your brain. In fact I would say this guy is toxic to younin general. He made you less happy, less positive, less indepedent. So what you need is to win back is not him but those qualities. and it all starts with choosing yourself (even though it feels worthless) and dumping him from your life.
Thankyou I'm trying to not go talk to him it's really hard
Leave him alone and don’t look back 100% it may hurt you but it’s for the best
How do I learn to leave him alone and not give in