my ex boyfriend who broke up with me on april 19th ghosted me until may 18th when he decided to unfollow me off social media. he then reached out the next day, he then text me the 24th, called the 28th and now hes been messaging me everyday and sending reels from june 2nd to june 5th. he told me that hes proud of my progress in therapy and said we need to take things slow. he said we should keep some distance but we can text because seeing eachother like everything is okay wont help. he said I need more therapy sessions and then he will either invite me over or he will come see me and we can try again. I just dont want to get hurt at the end after doing all this therapy to heal myself and to fix this relationship just for him to ghost me again. it seems like their is hope. I need advice please.
Last updated on:2025-06-07T16:52:57+05:30
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It’s painful when someone makes you feel like you need to prove yourself before they commit. But love isn’t earned through therapy it should be given freely. Make sure his intentions align with genuine commitment not hesitation.
It’s normal to want to believe in second chances but ask yourself does this feel steady safe and mutual or does it feel like he’s setting the rules while you wait on his terms? You deserve clarity not conditions.
His advice about distance while texting sounds thoughtful but be careful sometimes people keep the door slightly open so they don’t have to fully commit or let go. You deserve someone who is all in not halfway there.
Trust isn’t built on uncertainty and after ghosting you he has to prove he won’t do it again. I know it feels like there’s hope but make sure that hope is built on actions not just words.
Healing should be for you not for him. Therapy isn’t a requirement for his approval it’s for your own growth. If he truly values your healing he wouldn’t use it as a condition to be with you.
Its about you .If you want to choose you in the present or Hopes,dreams and promises.When all the good things happen in reality nothing wrong with that but when it's in words it's not believable yet."Trust Actions not words" .Not trying to be negative just Honest and smart
His mixed signals the ghosting the unfollowing then reappearing don’t show consistency. I’ve been through this where hope kept me holding on but hope shouldn’t be based on uncertainty. If he truly wants this his actions will prove it.
if you decide to give ut another try you have to have patience and faith and that would mean completing your therapy session and seeing how YOU feel about things .... basically sitting it out ... when post therapy if u decide to give it a try.. be ready for any consequence and tell yourself that if it doesn't work out you will not look back this time. all the best. wishing for the best outcome for you
I once waited for someone to decide if we were worth another chance. Looking back I realize love isn’t something you should have to qualify for. You deserve someone who stays because they want to not because you reached some invisible checkpoint.
healing should be about you not just fixing the relationship for him. If he's waiting for you to reach some undefined milestone before truly showing up ask yourself is this love or is it conditional?