During the breakup you said it had nothing to do with me, that it wasn't about me not being enough or doing something wrong and that I was a "Perfect Loving Caring BF" and now you "Hate you for what you put me through". I made mistakes, our relationship wasn't perfect sure, but the 180 has left me broken. Is it cause I chased? Is it cause of mistakes I made? Is it for something you think I have done but haven't? I'm just filled with questions I will never know the answer to.
Last updated on:2026-01-10T11:05:38+05:30
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It’s completely understandable that you feel confused and hurt. Sometimes during a breakup people say one thing, and later they’re overwhelmed by emotions they don’t know how to process, so they shift the blame outward. That doesn’t mean you’re a bad person or that you deserved any of this.Sometimes the answers we’re looking for never come, and that’s the hardest part — but peace often comes when we stop looking for them from the other person. Focus on yourself and your healing, not on “what went wrong.” Your worth doesn’t change just because someone else’s feelings did.
you think about those questions, are you looking for clarity, or are you hoping there’s still a version where you’re not the bad guy in their eyes
unanswered questions are the worst. the only benefit is that you can be certain that the problem here is not you, because if it was your ex would be aching to throw it back in your face. that means you have no need to doubt yourself moving forward
okay thank you
ah, the unanswered questions are brutal.
any advice?
sending warm hugs💗
thank you any advice?
I'm sorry about that. the same things were said to me after. but the important part is if someone talks about you like that and publicly I truly believe they are just trying to make themselves feel better. I hope your ok.
thank you, any advice?
@NeonJet197 I'm sorry but not really I let myself become what she talked about after awhile and I'm just trying to get better. I proved her right so just believe that you're an amazing person ignore the villain stuff or it will tear away at you until you do something you regret and become it.
one minute i was “amazing,” the next i was the villain. that 180 wrecked me too. i kept replaying everything i ever did, trying to find the moment i broke it
any advice?