Dealing with the loneliness post-breakup: what helps?

first of all : how are your social humane connections?

This will sound harsh but I really needed to hear it to not spiral every time I felt lonely so it might help you as well: While you are sad, sitting in your room, mopy and wanting to cry or out with your friends but feeling sad and you cant enjoy yourself and you literally are miserable and cannot have fun - he/she is enjoying himself/herself, living life to the fullest. He/she does not care if you are sad or alone or miserable. He/she is living the best life he/she could have. And a person who is okay with knowing how you feel and what you are going through - was never and never will be the right person for you. You need to start getting your spark back, even if its hard. Start small, do small things you love, colour, draw, jog, watch something, do art projects, yoga etc. You need to find purpose in life again. Everytime you feel lonely or he/she comes back into your mind, remember that you are not wasting your valuable time on him/her.

for me the loneliness are all the thoughts that come to you over and over. I've got this system that everytime a feeling hits I think and focus on Beach, Sun, sand to try and take my focus away.

is it the quiet that’s getting to you, or missing him specifically? sometimes those feel the same but they hit different.

the loneliness after a breakup was the loudest part for me. nights felt endless. i’d reach for my phone out of habit and then remember… oh. it’s over. that silence HURT more than the fights sometimes 😭 you’re not weird for feeling this.