Am I just a backup? He got back with his ex but wants to stay friends.

so i've talked with a guy and i got attached to him. he and his girlfriend broke up and we started talking later on, i found out they got back together without him telling me. and now he wanted to be friends with me, we spent a lot of time together. but i kinda thought that maybe he wanted to be friends with me because he didn't want to lost any connection with me and then when they finally broke up he will ran to me. what u guys think?

Last updated on:2026-02-25T04:44:03+05:30

Comments (7)

Coldboy
Coldboy 1 wk ago

if he never left her again, could you truly handle just being his friend? or would that slowly break you a little every day?

Sojourner
Sojourner 1 wk ago

Being friends is just a way to have the comforts of your company without any of the commitment.

jemeni
jemeni 1 wk ago

when someone keeps you around while they’re figuring out another relationship, it usually benefits them more than you.

Ellen81
Ellen81 1 wk ago

Coming from someone who was replaced before he even dumped me... don't do it. Don't do the just friends thing, he only wants to keep you as an option in case it doesn't work out with the other person, he doesn't care about you.

yearningwei
yearningwei 1 wk ago

omg! thank you

Ellen81
Ellen81 1 wk ago

@yearningwei Anytime ❤️

NoMoreMe
NoMoreMe 1 wk ago

i’ve BEEN the “in between” girl before. he swore they were done, then suddenly they were back together and i found out the hard way. then he wanted to “stay friends.” i stayed because i thought maybe when they broke up again he’d choose me. he didn’t. that hope can hook you so deep