I had to ask him for an account number because I am transferring my phone number from his account to mine, so I had to text him asking him that. you'd think something as simple as that wouldn't set me back, but he replied with a screenshot of account details and I could see he had a bunch of Facebook, Snapchat and Instagram notifications. I know he's talking to multiple girls, it was a huge problem when we were technically broken up but trying to fix our relationship. I begged him to stop talking to them and he refused. now we are officially broken up so it's none of my business, but it hurts so bad knowing he's talking to someone new. I wonder if he sent that screenshot on purpose for me to see how active his phone is. I broke down crying and almost texted him saying I get it, he's moved on, and I couldn't care less who he's hooking up with now. but I know that would make me look crazy and give him the reaction he wants. why can't we even have a simple interaction without me breaking down? this just goes to show we can't be in contact at all, not even minor admin things, because it just hurts me so bad... I want to be important to him, not those other girls. I want him to choose me.
Last updated on:2026-05-23T01:29:16+05:30
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this is exactly how I feel. our entire relationship he was entertaining other girls and he was in a full relationship at one point while living together. I moved out and they tried to keep it going but broke up because he wouldnt stop textong me. we have been in contact again but i just lost it the other night because of him liking girls pictures on social media. i need a break to figure out if he is what i want and for him to experienxe life really without me involved
eeing my ex’s notifications pop up while we were still untangling our lives and it felt like being replaced in real time. i kept thinking “how are you already entertaining new people while i can barely breathe?”
yup, I feel that. mine was messaging girls while I still lived with him. I would be sitting next to him on the couch, ask to Google something on his phone, and he refused. that's when I knew it was over
i know the urge to text him something emotional so he finally GETS the pain he caused.
you think part of what’s hurting most is that deep down you still hoped he’d choose you over all the attention from those other girls
I’ve been dealing with something similar. I know it’s really really tough, but we can’t make others choose us or see our value. Only we know our value, and i want you to know that you have value. Try to remember that when you overthink everything. We can’t do anything in situations that’s out of our control, the only thing we can control is ourselves. Again, I know it’s hard, and everyday i have to fight this battle with knowing he’s likely talking to someone else. But you’re doing your best, is all that matters and all that you can control. We have moments where we spiral like this, and it’s human. If you follow any religion I’d recommend really praying about everything that’s on your heart and mind, and praying for them too. Journaling has helped too. It’s not healthy for us to keep anything in; or to say what we want to them in order to prove our value. ❤️
thank you ❤️ i agree, Journaling has been a huge help