Why did my avoidant ex lie and gaslight me after the breakup?

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i suffer from bipolar 2 and some other things and i can't help asking my ex questions about the breakup and bow shes talking to other others in my face shes avoidant and she lied to me and gaslighted me so much and emotionally cheated i know i have my issues and we argued alot but the sneakiness i don't deserve i know my craziness drove her away more bt if u only knew what i deal with mentally u wouldn't blame me did she not know how bad i would spiral? idk what to do we have to live together for now i know i will never get answers or true closure

Last updated on:2026-05-25T03:21:11+05:30

Comments (9)

brokenking
brokenking 2 mths ago

living together after a breakup is HELL, especially when you already struggle mentally and they’re acting cold right in front of you

Joocey00
Joocey00 2 mths ago

i know you want her to finally explain herself in a way that makes the pain click into place, but honestly i had to stop chasing closure from someone who kept lying to me

SpaceGurl91
SpaceGurl91 2 mths ago

right i know i won't get the full truth my thing is she tryd to exit without me knowing but the universe slowly opened my eyes

cutieCCia
cutieCCia 2 mths ago

the spiral is coming from still seeing her every day and watching her act emotionally detached while you’re stuck carrying all the hurt alone?

SpaceGurl91
SpaceGurl91 2 mths ago

definitely

JoyfulSun301
JoyfulSun301 2 mths ago

I think it’s good that you have some self awareness regarding your mental health. perhaps it would be best if you focus on yourself. set some goals, find a new hobby to focus on, work on improving your diet/exercise…whatever you can do to become the best version of yourself. You cannot change or control anyone else, but you can take steps in your own self improvement and growth.

LazerBoy855
LazerBoy855 2 mths ago

firstly solve ur issues.u should be taking care of urself. be d best of u and then bring the best gal that deserve u.

ItsNotEasy
ItsNotEasy 2 mths ago

id suggest going cold shoulder and limiting your reactions as much as possible. the less you interact with them the better.

I know its hard but you are better off moving on from the sounds of it.

Also being in that situation with that condition isnt good for you.

SpaceGurl91
SpaceGurl91 2 mths ago

Exactly and im unmedicated right now but im working on that. seems she never cared about that or couldn't handle it wich is understandable but the compulsive lying? she definitely has her iwn personality disorder shit going on the disrespect is unbearable