I'm emotionally attached to someone who doesn't seem to care about me and it's breaking me.
He's the only person I really have right now. I don't have close friends and both of my parents are in poor health. I think that's part of why I held on for so long even when I could see the truth.
Deep down I knew almost from the beginning that he wasn't as invested in the relationship as I was. I saw the signs but I kept making excuses because I loved him and wanted to believe things would get better. Now I can't ignore it anymore.
One of the first things that bothered me was how he handled money. He never paid for our dates always saying he needed to help relatives or that money was tight. It frustrated me but I convinced myself it wasn't a big deal.
Then there were birthdays and holidays. He never wanted to celebrate them with me. He said he wasn't interested in those kinds of occasions and that spending money on them wasn't practical. He told me we'd celebrate once we were more financially stable. But I watched him celebrate those same occasions with his friends and family. That hurt but I pushed those feelings aside because I wanted to accept him for who he was.
During our first year together he talked about building a future with me. He said he wanted a family and children one day. But when I finally brought up the idea of trying for a baby he completely changed his mind. Suddenly he said he never wanted children at all. That was the first time I felt my heart truly break. I was devastated but I still chose to stay because I believed our love could survive anything.
What finally shattered me was what happened after I became ill.
I needed support more than ever and he simply wasn't there. He never offered to take me to appointments pick me up after surgery or even check in to see how I was doing. He told me my illness was beyond what he could handle emotionally and that once I recovered we could decide whether to continue the relationship. He even said he hadn't signed up to provide that level of emotional support.
I don't know how to come back from hearing something like that.
I'm completely heartbroken. I feel empty hopeless and so alone. Right now I don't have dreams for the future anymore. I just want to stay home shut the world out and disappear for a while.
Last updated on:2026-07-02T20:46:11+05:30
Comments (4)
i'm so sorry you're carrying all of this, especially while your parents are unwell too.
when you look back now, was there ever a time you truly felt cared for by him, or were you mostly holding on to the hope that one day he'd become the partner you needed?
The kid thing was the tell. People who want a future with you look for ways to make it work, not reasons to shut it down the second you mention a timeline. He didn't change his mind, he just stopped pretending.
He is not only toxic but selfish.
Get out of such relationships.
The earlier the better for your own health and recovery.
If he really loves you, he will drop everything he is doing and come to you.