Why can't i stop idealizing my ex? tips to let go

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Even though they have so many qualities I hate and have done things behind my back, I don’t know why I keep running back.

I know it’s my own insecurities speaking and that I’ve put him on a pedestal but how do I ruin his image in my brain?

Last updated on:2026-07-06T17:53:11+05:30

Comments (6)

morphous
morphous 3 wks ago

i had my ex on such a pedestal that i forgot how often i cried because of her. what finally broke the spell was being honest about the parts i kept making excuses for, not just replaying the good memories.

QuietLyric
QuietLyric 3 wks ago

i started asking myself one question every time i wanted to go back, "would i actually be happy if nothing about them changed?" the answer was almost always no, and that helped me stop chasing the version of him i made up in my head.

jamdex0
jamdex0 3 wks ago

what's one thing he's done that you KNOW you'd tell your best friend never to accept, but you keep excusing because it's him?

hhfhfs
hhfhfs 3 wks ago

cheating 😭 and micro cheating

letitgo_user
letitgo_user 3 wks ago

Stop looking back with rose tinted glasses and focus on the bad stuff too. I am also stuck obsessing over somebody's potential despite him repeatedly showing me his true colours and that the guy I fell for no longer exists. Think about every time he's made you cry and why and believe that instead.

SmileEvery808
SmileEvery808 3 wks ago

you can’t. you can only detox. you don’t run back because they’re a good person, you run back because your addicted. you have to treat this the same way someone gets over drugs. ❤️