My girlfriend broke up with me because she wants time to heal and grow as a person. I understand that and I genuinely want her to become the best version of herself but I’m still hurting so much.
I love her deeply and after the breakup I cried for days. During the first week I barely got out of bed. Throughout our relationship she often struggled to make time for me and I didn’t say much about it but deep down I always wished things were different.
We agreed to write goodbye letters to each other. I spent around two days writing mine making sure it showed how much she meant to me. I thanked her for being herself and wrote so much reassurance about the things I knew she struggled with. I gave it everything I had.
Then I woke up and found out she didn’t write one for me. She said it was too difficult that she kept putting it off because it was making her feel sick. She apologized again and again and I tried to understand. I told her it was okay because I knew it wasn’t easy.
But honestly I’m angry. It feels like I put so much effort into this relationship and even this final goodbye I couldn’t get the same in return. Maybe I’m being selfish right now but it hurts so much. I guess I need to stop expecting things from her but part of me is still thinking come on you could’ve tried.
Last updated on:2026-07-08T22:36:12+05:30
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I'm pissed mine went on to a better life while leaving me in a pit of despair
Unfortunately, we only play our role in a relationship, you can’t try to guide them on puppet strings to be what you want, they have to make their own decisions.
tbh i feel where you’re coming from cause although we didn’t write break up letters, my last relationship was a big struggle of it seemed like only I was putting actual effort into the relationship and that like she appreciated me in her life, but didn’t really ever do anything to show me that I was appreciated unless I basically forced/begged her to.
sounds like she is depressed in general and struggling with mental health. does she need to write a letter right away? ask to exchange in a month