Hello! Warning: Suicidal thoughts
Context:
When my boyfriend told me he was going to go kill himself I got scared of him going through with it. He told me not to tell anyone so I didnt for a while until it got too much and I ended up telling his older brother.
His older brother was so appreciative that I told him and thanked me. He told me I shouldn't feel guilty in what happened and his brother is hard to deal with at times. That was a huge weight carried off my chest feeling like someone from his family was there for me. His mom wasn't supportive and of course believed her son over me and my ex told me that his step dad thought I was a trashy whore. I tried to ignore what I was feeling but after that happened I saw that my heart began racing looking at photos of him and I haven't felt that way since his brother and I started dating back in 2023. Eventually I decided to reach out just to talk having someone from his family gentle and understanding was something I never had. He sounded confused when I contacted him he said let me know if anything happens with his brother and me. Im not sure why but I just blurted out that I had a crush on him which was silly I never met him before I think I just liked how nice he was. It caught him off guard and he just said I understand I was 19 once too work on yourself and reach out if anything happens between you and my brother. He then ended up blocking me and now follows his brother my ex which he never did before and now im very embarrased.
Another Context:
Back in March when my ex and I were still no contact his older brother followed me liked my pictures and asked how I was doing and if I lived in (the city I lived in). I asked him about this when I reached out again and he said oh I contacted you? I was lonely at the time and just wanted a friend and didnt know that me and his brother had history. I said I could be his friend if he needed anything and he said he appreciated it but im his brothers ex so it would cause family drama which I understood. Before that when my ex and I were in contact I told him that his brother was texting me and he said oh yeah he was in a hoe phase and wanted to talk to different girls so idk if thats true.
Last updated on:2026-07-10T21:10:11+05:30
Comments (3)
i'd be embarrassed too, but i don't think telling him makes you a bad person
i had an ex put that kind of weight on me too, and i carried it around thinking i had to keep them alive. i'm really glad you told his brother, i would've done the same.
when your ex talked about killing himself, did he ever get help after that? i really hope you're talking to someone about how much this has affected you too, and if you're ever worried someone is in immediate danger, it's okay to contact emergency services or a crisis helpline in your area even if they asked you not to