hey everyone this breakup has been sitting really heavy with me and i could use some outside perspective.
i know people say that when someone says they’ve lost feelings you should believe them and move forward and that’s what i’m trying to do. i’m just struggling because it felt like everything changed so suddenly.
we talked for around 5 months and were on and off during the last month. he kept telling me we’d find our way back to each other and that he just needed some time so i gave him that.
a few days ago he replied to one of my TikTok reposts we joked around and started talking again. after i didn’t message him for a day he texted “what happened to us😔” and we ended up talking all day.
during that conversation i mentioned two guys i had talked to before nothing serious. he got upset that i remembered their names and where they lived said it disgusted him and then started reposting girls on TikTok. this isn’t the first time something like this happened. before i reposted an edit of a guy and he blocked me saying he didn’t want to talk to a girl who does that.
after that i asked if we should stop talking and he said “yeah honestly i’ve lost feelings. i’ve been trying to make this work but we’re just wasting each other’s time.”
the confusing part is that he was completely calm and told me not to blame myself. but when i asked why he had asked to hang out that same morning and said he missed me he couldn’t really explain it. he just said “idk i felt like that in the moment.
i ended up blocking him because i needed space but i’m still confused. did he actually lose feelings or did the conversation about those two guys trigger something and make him say it?
also as soon as he said he lost feelings he removed the reposts of the girls. he usually does that after we argue so i don’t know what to make of it.
Last updated on:2026-07-12T18:38:19+05:30
Comments (6)
girl trust me, move on. you deserve so much more than that. hes probably just avoiding the effort and taking the easy way out. I know it sounds impossible right now but you'll be so much better without him.
i had to stop looking at every little sign and focus on how the relationship actually felt. the back and forth drained me more than the breakup did.
when he got upset about those other guys, did he ever talk about what he was actually feeling or did he usually turn it into anger and pulling away?
He sounds immature, lack of confidence, easily jealous and possessive.
You deserve someone who goes 100% all in for you. If the relationship is serious, you want healthy communication. You both can feel save without playing games. without jealousy...
For you it isn't maybe a big deal, but some guys have the worst case scenario in their head about other guys.
just give it time. focus on yourself and girl friends and do NC.
When you talk to him in the future and want a relationship; be clear you don't want to repeat the history, you're serious without playing games. he has to trust you that you don't do stupid things with other guys and if he doesn't trust you there is no relationship; this goes both ways. make clear that you choose him.
If he's a jealous type he has to look within otherwise history repeats.
Hope you make a wise decision, you want someone who wants you ♥️
It's only 5months, trust me when I say, this is the best time to move on. The first day is hard but with each passing day things get easier. Your mind will adjust and everything will feel normal again