Why did he say he loved me but didn't want to be together?

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I never thought I'd be writing this, but here we are.

His name is Aris.

We dated for 7 months, and honestly, he became such a big part of my life. We talked every day, made memories together, and I got so used to having him around that I couldn't imagine life without him.

Then one day, everything changed.

He told me he had lost feelings. There wasn't another girl. I didn't get cheated on. He just said he didn't want a relationship anymore.

That was probably one of the hardest things I've ever heard.

The confusing part? He still told me he loved me. How can someone love you but not want to be with you? I spent so much time trying to understand that, replaying every conversation and wondering if I'd done something wrong.

After we broke up, we stayed friends. At first I thought that would make things easier, but it actually made moving on even harder. Every message gave me hope, even when I knew I shouldn't have any.

I cried a lot. I missed him every single day. Some days I wanted to text him. Some days I wanted to forget everything. It felt like I was stuck between holding on and letting go.

I'm still healing. I still think about him sometimes. But I'm slowly learning that I can't force someone to feel something they don't feel anymore.

Maybe this story doesn't have the ending I wanted.

But I'm hoping it isn't the end of our story.

I can tell more details

Why did he say he loved me but didn't want to be together?

Last updated on:2026-07-23T22:28:26+05:30

Comments (9)

Devorra490
Devorra490 2 days ago

The right person will find you, you won't have to find or chase him, he will just find you. I hope you show up for yourself everyday

GiggTu103
GiggTu103 2 days ago

Thanks a lot

flyaway1
flyaway1 2 wks ago

when you stayed friends, did it actually make you feel close to him, or was it mostly giving you hope that he'd come back?

GiggTu103
GiggTu103 2 wks ago

mostly giving me hope he will come back

placedark
placedark 2 wks ago

finally accepting that i couldn't build a future around mixed signals. staying friends kept reopening the wound every time i started to feel a little better

wingJen71
wingJen71 2 wks ago

my ex kept saying "i still love you" while walking away, and that sentence kept me stuck for months because i thought it meant there was still a chance.

Hopeful
Hopeful 2 wks ago

gurl
the same happened w me
I had a 7 month long relationship and 2 days ago after a fight he randomly texted me
I can't lead you on anymore
I have no feelings for you

even though we had been on a date a week before and he had put in efforts to come meet me after it.
he too did it randomly and here I am crying for my first love

GiggTu103
GiggTu103 2 wks ago

GURLL Do u have contact with him?

FlipTu444
FlipTu444 2 wks ago

Stay strong. Sometimes things don't end the way we want, but everything happens for a reason. I hope you find happiness and peace.