We met when we both had partners and saw each other for 10 months. There was this unbelieveable connection between us and we fell deeply in love almost instantly. No one wanted to hurt anyone. I broke up with my bf of six years, we sold our apartment, broke up with eachothers families and I moved to my own apartment. It was ok, it was the right decision, I couldn’t possibly be with my ex when I felt this way for another man and we had many other reasons to break up. I still kept seeing this man until almost a week ago. He spoiled me, he told me that he loved me and that he never in his life had loved someone like this before. We talked about everything in life. He treated me like I’ve always wanted to be treated and with very much respect. He’s 12 years older than me but we felt like we were soulmates. I’ve never felt so seen in my life and he told me that he would want to marry me in the future, have my kids and kept telling me dreams about us traveling, living in a house together and so on. I felt like the happiest girl on earth but we both felt very guilty because of the cheating. She (or my ex) never found out. He said that he didnt love his gf anymore and wouldn’t care if she saw a new guy. But finally he said that he couldn’t afford to move out, that he wanted to be with me but that it would be impossible right now. Maybe in a year or longer, when he will have the money. My heart is broken. I don’t regret one second of me breaking up with my ex and starting my own life in a new apartment. But I feel heartbroken that I’ve spent 10 months, falling so deeply in love, with a man that maybe will never leave his gf. When we finally decided to break up, because I said I couldn’t wait for him that long, I felt like my body stopped working. I’ve cried every day for 10 days, and now we are 1 day in no contact. How will I ever get over this? I can’t believe that this happened to me. We live in a big city and I get that it’s a tough economy but I feel deeply hurt. Please don’t judge, I know that we both have done very wrong and I never wanted to hurt anyone.
Last updated on:2026-07-15T01:46:03+05:30
Comments (8)
i’ve been through the waiting part, hoping someone would finally make a move.
it’s horrible
i had a similar situation where the connection felt so rare, but the person still wasn’t able to choose me fully. losing the future you pictured with someone hurts so much.
i’m sorry to hear that.. yes it is horrible when you meet such a unique person and you still aren’t chosen. How are you doing now? are you still thinking about the future you pictured together?
hey do you think part of what hurts most is losing him, or losing the life you both kept imagining together?
yes, i really wished that we would have done everything we dreamt of.. it hurts so much thinking about it. maybe it’s losing the life we both kept imagining. i felt horrible being the other woman and that’s why we ended things.. i wouldn’t want to continue being the other woman, but i’m just so sad we couldn’t make it
I don't judge and this is a very hard thing to deal with I wish I was further along in my own journey so I could tell you it will definitely be fine, but I'm only a week into my own and it sucks alot but this community is great and I think with some time and some help you can get through this
Thank you, i hope you will do well too