Why his name on my instagram hurts so much

He didn’t like my Instagram story. It’s the only ”contact” we have with eachother. he usually would have, always. why does it hurt so much seeing his name in the watchlist? does he think of me at all? i went through all of his old Instagram posts this morning and now i feel like shit. i usually do. i know i shouldn’t and that it hurts, but i still do it. i don’t want to unfollow or block him, we told eachother we wouldn’t. the mornings are always the hardest, the first thing i do is look at my phone to see if he has texted. he doesn’t, of course. i booked a spontaneous trip to Florence this weekend because i felt like i wanted to do something fun, I’ve always wanted to go and I’ve felt so sad lately. i’m almost afraid to post on Instagram because what if i get hurt if he doesn’t like my stories? i know it’s super silly but.

Last updated on:2026-07-16T03:50:26+05:30

Comments (10)

nijjasoul
nijjasoul 1 wk ago

i’ve been there with the morning phone checks, that feeling of waking up and hoping for one message. i had to stop giving those small online moments so much power because they kept reopening the same wound.

SwiftSnap188

Thank you for sharing. i hope that i will one day move on and stop looking so much at social media searching for him

Annalein
Annalein 1 wk ago

I posted a selfie today bc I felt pretty but seeing his username without a Heart bc he liked my story hurts..I feel u

SwiftSnap188

omg i feel this so much. Thank you for sharing, i hope you will feel better soon

Difficulty4
Difficulty4 1 wk ago

i used to check little things like views and likes too, and every tiny change felt like a huge sign that they were slipping away.

SwiftSnap188

i feel you..

TurboBuzz763

this isn’t super silly. I understand. I’m in a similar situation. what’s helped is time. I know that sounds annoying and it’s hard because u think “what do I do in the meantime?” well what I did was hang out with friends, reach out to people I haven’t spoken to, find new shows and movies, and do hobbies I haven’t done in a while. try not to focus on if he’s viewed it, liked it or contacted you. whenever you get that urge to check, go for a walk. it won’t make the feeling go straight away but it will lessen the urge over time. you’ve got this!

SwiftSnap188

Thank you so much. this actually helps very much, hope you will be fine too

trustissue0
trustissue0 2 wks ago

hey you think keeping that little Instagram connection feels comforting right now, or does it mostly keep you stuck waiting for him to show up?

SwiftSnap188

i don’t know… i just can’t block or unfollow him right now. it feels impossible