How do i protect myself while living with my ex?

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I'm stuck living with my ex in September.
Messy as hell breakup. kept screwing with each other's feelings.
they want to stay friends because "im the only one they can talk to" and "they don't want to feel abandoned", but i still wanna rebuild a relationship and they just don't.
we're no-contact until mid August. wtf do I do? the moment they find someone else, its gonna break me.

Last updated on:2026-07-22T22:12:41+05:30

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splatapult
splatapult 4 days ago

when you agreed to stay friends, did they understand that you’re still hoping to rebuild things, or are you both holding onto two completely different versions of what happens next

Aur0rum
Aur0rum 3 days ago

I think the statement was "it'd be nice if something happened in future, but we can't cling into that" - a few weeks later, it turned into "ive moved on", and they said that itd be years before they'd be willing to date me again. so yeah, holding onto different things.

Voleuse01
Voleuse01 4 days ago

i lived with my ex after we broke up and every little conversation felt like a tiny bit of hope, even when she had already moved on.

jakesworld55
jakesworld55 4 days ago

I'm in a very similar boat my friend I want to try and stay friends with my ex if possible as well but it's only been a month since we officially broke it off (I'm still living with her) and she has already found someone else and it kills me everyday I hope you know your not the only one in pain (the thought helps me sometimes) I wish I had better answers for you but I can tell you, that you can't build a relationship with just yourself 💜 stay strong

Aur0rum
Aur0rum 4 days ago

problem ive got is that I don't wanna stay friends, itll hurt me too much, but they keep trying to guilt-trip me into staying in their life :((