we only talked for four weeks but we texted every single day. he opened up about the end of his 12-year relationship. he told me his ex had serious mental health struggles and had been physically abusive. they have two kids together.
last saturday we finally met in person. we laughed for hours cuddled and i felt safer than i have with anyone in a long time. i let my guard down in a way i never usually do. we didn't even sleep together. we just talked laughed and somewhere along the way i realized i was falling for him.
throughout the night his ex kept calling asking him to prove he was alone. then on sunday everything changed. she sent him a photo of a positive pregnancy test.
he completely fell apart. he cried and admitted he didn't want another child. meanwhile she was excited and convinced this meant they were going to be a family again.
after that it felt like a switch flipped. the warmth between us disappeared. suddenly i felt like just a friend. after a while i decided to go home. all i got was a cold hug and a "let's keep in touch."
i haven't heard from him since.
i think he's going back to her and i honestly don't even know how to process it. i've never let myself be that vulnerable with someone so quickly. i feel embarrassed for believing this could become something and i'm crushed.
Last updated on:2026-07-24T21:14:11+05:30
Comments (3)
opening my heart to someone who made me feel safe after a long time of protecting myself, then watching everything change overnight. that kind of silence after so much closeness really HURTS.
before this happened, did he seem like he had truly healed from his past relationship, or did you notice he was still carrying a lot of that pain with him? i’ve been stuck on that question after my own heartbreak too.
I'm in a very similar situation. Unfortunately people will choose what they believe is comfort over confronting reality. Only time will tell. Try to heal and move on. For all that matters, it was never meant to be us