Its been almost 3 years for our relationship .We are in no contact these days.Last time i added a whatapp status about just a video of a kdrama's charcter was my 1st love.He replied it asking who ? 1st love ? he knows about my real 1st love story.Then i just explaind him that was a kdarama charcter from my childhood crush.And then he was like hmm okay and We were in video call that moment so i gave him kisses and cute actions but he just ignore it ..i was really very tired and very busy that day he knows he was with his family and wfh.So i just need spend time with him that kind of days.I am really waiting to come home and be with him actually .But he got upset for that thing then i was in serious mood and ignore my kisssess and actions i asked what are u doing and he said nothing then asked agin what ? what i are doing ? the he said just seeing status.Actually at that time i got very upset and very mad at him.because of my waiting and everything ..i was very sad about that he ignored my actions and even didnt look at that and just checking others status.I scold him and told him i was about to be with him i waited to be with him that day i just want to spend time now why are u doing this to me ..just getting upset about silly things and i was very angry at that time and i spilled the word "shit."then he was like ohh i am the shik okay ..and then end the call and said save my name as shit ..i wont marry u that u will not respect me in future are your mother calling your dad as shit ? i dont need your explanations and then he went i got 34 calls but i am still angry ..i was triggerd ..and then i stopped ..he didint seen my msgs ..he is very nice person when its no any problems between us .But when these kind of things he was not him..now i just said sorry after one day and didnt send any other messages he seen it and didnt send messages.what shoud i do.i dont want to be the 1st one who always gi and send messges ..cuz most of the time its me.wht should i do ?🙂🥲🥲🥲its hurting me..he was in silence ..He is like this....
Last updated on:2026-07-25T22:06:39+05:30
Comments (6)
if they chose to come back and have the conversation instead of chasing after every silence. i wanted someone who could work through hard moments with me, not disappear every time they got hurt.
you say it's usually you who reaches out first, has he ever come back on his own after an argument, or does the silence only end because you break it?
i am the one who mostly reaches him first and he get angry and upset over what i say or how i react for his things ..he dont understand why i react like that thats because of him..the scene was like that.
i was with someone who shut down every time we argued, and somehow i always ended up being the one apologizing first. after a while i realized i wasn't just missing him, i was carrying the whole relationship on my back.
same as me ...now I am thinking that..when he loves me he loves me fullest but when it was a moment that we had a bad conversation ..he shut down and not reply or answer me..so then i get upset and apology for that .
deep down you know already that he is not giving you attention. spend some time with yourself... and think .. what do you want in your life? 34 calling him is too much .. don't be so available and desparate.