We were together for almost 2 years on LDR. Should move together this summer, but he cancelled. We are not together, although he never said we actually broke up. He is an avoidant type of guy.
We are currently day n 18 of no contact. We had another time before, May/June, of no contact for 12 days. After we talked almost everyday (chatting, calling, laughing, flirting etc..) until this NC.
18 days ago, he sked me for space, cause of work problems. I am not contacting/stalking him.
I am not unadded or blocked on any socials, can see his stories etc. He has my photos on his socials and he didn’t delete our shared album in galery.
I am trying to focus on myself now, but is there a possibility he returns? I still somehow want him back tho
hope everyone here is doing better xx
Last updated on:2026-08-03T16:25:21+05:30
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damn the mixed signals with the photos and album still there are brutal. what finally clicked for me was treating the silence like the answer for now and leaning hard into my own routines instead of waiting.
yeah it is, very confusing, thank you for sharing your thoughts
what's one small thing you're doing this week just for you while you sit with all this? hope you're being gentle with yourself xx
thank you for these words, well I try to keep my mind busy, trying to find work and usually I buy stuff for my wellbeing like skincare prosucts or new clothes xx
my ldr guy did the exact same avoidant pull away right before we were supposed to meet up after a year, asked for space then went quiet. i kept our photos up and checked his stories too, thinking it meant something. day 18 feels endless but you're already stronger than you think for not reaching out.
so sorry this happend to you too :((, yeah I am trying to be strong, cause it’s the best to doo rn, some days are better dome days are really bad, sending hugs to youu xx
You're welcome, you deserved the best and the avoidant just isn't it. All the best to you too 😊🙏🏽
Hi, I was with an avoidant type, we were together for 2 years, engaged and was to be married. December 2024 he randomly broke up with me, we were to be married the following year in May.. since that time we have been on and off. I wouldn't talk to him for days or weeks at a time and randomly he would just pop up like nothing never happend and breadcrumb me. our convos were never deep unless I brought it up and when I did he would get upset and go ghost again, and that's been basically happening till recently .
I've prolonged this for far too long, waiting and being hopeful, hopping that the sweet living side he once showed will somehow appear and he'd choose me once again. All that to say, it never happened , so I suggest you try and move on from him else you would be in a never ending emotionally painful cycle of ups and very lows with someone who can never fully choose you. I'm here healing aswel. it's almost 2 years. don't end up like me stuck in a cycle . The avoidant will always come back but they don't come back with substance , depth or the willingness to want to make it work or the ability for deep intimacy.
thank you so much for this advice, as much as I wanted and still want to have a future w him, I guess I’ll need to move on. I hope for the best to you, you are really strong xx