How to tell someone you're still stuck on your ex

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day 21 now i guess. 21 days without talking to the person i loved with my whole heart. i don’t want to admit that because i know that he never felt that way. but he was. maybe he still is.

i’m talking to someone else and i feel like im leading them on. so how do i tell them that i can’t go on with talking because i am stuck on a guy who chose another girl over me? because i don’t want to be the person that breaks another’s heart in the way he broke mine.

and it all sucks so much because i was never okay. but when i spoke to him it made the problems disappear, and now they’re back with another, even more heart breaking disguise.

everything now is so making me feel so lost and confused. i don’t want to do things anymore and i don’t want to be here anymore. and yet i have to stay. it sucks, but i could never leave my family alone. not with everything floating above us like a dark cloud, thunder lurking beyond.

Last updated on:2026-08-03T06:09:01+05:30

Comments (6)

C4MP3R12
C4MP3R12 3 wks ago

has anything happened these last few days that's made the grief hit this hard again, or has it just been building since the no contact started?

illchange
illchange 3 wks ago

i think it could very well be both. but mostly i think when i got to talking to another guy it brought back memories and then feelings. but i also know that the farther i get from the day i last talked to him, it hurts more.

Foxwins
Foxwins 4 wks ago

i had to tell someone i couldn't keep talking because my heart was still with my ex, and it sucked, but it was kinder than pretending i was ready. they deserved the truth, and honestly, so did i.

illchange
illchange 3 wks ago

i’m glad you feel the same way. i did it anyway and i feel so much better even though it really sucked.

swan012
swan012 4 wks ago

counting the days too, like if i made it one more day maybe it would stop hurting. i'm really glad you said you'd stay for your family, and i hope you're talking to someone close to you too, not just us.

illchange
illchange 3 wks ago

yes, counting the days seems to help though because i’m trying to remember that these are all the days i made it and didn’t give up. and yes, i talk to another person and she has really helped me through it, but this helps me to find people who understand me.